Ashley S Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 If any of you remember, then you know who I am talking about. It's the guy I sent a letter to, and he said I was "unattractive" and "crazy" etc. Then he saw me, my friend, and my family at a bar on Christmas Eve, and I ended up leaving. Well it's that guy, anyways I have been doing fine, but it really irks me because my brother recently saw him, and my brother said he approached him and said "How's your crazy sister?" "I saw all of them at the bar on Christmas Eve. Her friend bitched me out, but I couldn't hear what he was saying, but Devin approached me and said "I'm sorry that her friend yelled at you dude." I am gonna have to choke that dude when I see him." "So what's you crazy sister been up to? Anything new?" What the hell! Now I am angry. I don't know why he would ask about me like that, and he would even mention my name. I am so angry. Plus, he is mentioning an incident that happened almost two months ago, and I highly doubt Devin said he was sorry for my friend bitching him out when Devin hates him. I am not going to do anything, I am just really angry, and I don't know how to let go of it? It really bothers me. I don't even know why my name is brought up, or Christmas Eve. I am in anger mode now, and I don't know what to do? And why he would say to my brother "How is your crazy sister doing?" Like why does he care?
GemmaUK Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 Why do you care (is more to the point)? You need to work on your confidence. Plus you are able to control your own reactions. You can get rid of 'angry' if you wish to by just forgetting about it and not focusing on it. Allow it to breed by fermenting it and you will be 'crazy girl'. 3
OMC Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 Ashley- sounding kinda crazy there. Like Gemma asked... why do you care? 2
ExpatInItaly Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 Ashley- sounding kinda crazy there. Like Gemma asked... why do you care? This. You need to let it go. Plus, tell your clueless brother to stop reporting on what this guys says to him. 2
stillafool Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 I can't believe your brother is still talking to him; but definitely tell your brother to not tell you anything about this guy, what he says or what he's doing. Also it sounds like this guy just said "how's your crazy sister?",rather off the cuff so to speak. Why does it bother you so much? Your brother should have never told you this. 1
Maleficent Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 When a man calls a woman crazy, it usually means he had 'expectations' on how you should act or react to certain things - usually ****ty treatment on their part - and you did not 'meet' their expectations. Personally, when someone calls me crazy, I believe I at least stood up for myself. 'crazy' 'drama queen' usually means 'I treated her like crap and she got mad. I would have preferred she didn't call me out on my ****ty behaviour' His opinion of you is out of your control. Whether it affects you or not is entirely up to you but if it does, he's not the one losing sleep over it so why bother? 1
Author Ashley S Posted February 11, 2015 Author Posted February 11, 2015 Ashley- sounding kinda crazy there. Like Gemma asked... why do you care? I don't know why I care. I think it's because it still hurts me. I just would rather have him not add any fuel to the fire. Like, just let it be, how the way it is. When he meets up with my brother my name shouldn't be mentioned. It's bad enough my brother still talks and hangs with him, but if he's going to do that then at least keep my name out of it. Keep me out of it. Period. I'm angry because I know I can't do anything. I know he's trying to get a reaction out of me. I know that is why he said it, but I'm angry that he's still around, and trying to mess with me, and I cant do anything about it. 1
Author Ashley S Posted February 11, 2015 Author Posted February 11, 2015 I can't believe your brother is still talking to him; but definitely tell your brother to not tell you anything about this guy, what he says or what he's doing. Also it sounds like this guy just said "how's your crazy sister?",rather off the cuff so to speak. Why does it bother you so much? Your brother should have never told you this. You and me both. I can't stand my brother, but more than anything I can't stand "Josh" or whatever name I used to conceal this loser's identity. Josh is seriously immature, and trying to start trouble. I dont understand why he can't just let things be how the way they are? Also what does he want to hear? "Dude my sister is locked up in an asylum, she is crazy bro!" Lol, seriously. It's so ridiculous, I just don't know how to release my anger, and not let it bother me.
Zahara Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 I don't know why I care. I think it's because it still hurts me. I just would rather have him not add any fuel to the fire. Like, just let it be, how the way it is. When he meets up with my brother my name shouldn't be mentioned. It's bad enough my brother still talks and hangs with him, but if he's going to do that then at least keep my name out of it. Keep me out of it. Period. I'm angry because I know I can't do anything. I know he's trying to get a reaction out of me. I know that is why he said it, but I'm angry that he's still around, and trying to mess with me, and I cant do anything about it. Tell your brother to stop feeding you with nonsense. The moment you hear your brother open his trap and speak about this clown -- stop him in his tracks and tell him to stop. And tell your brother, if he's any type of brother he would tell this clown to stop demeaning you and to stop talking to him about you. You know clown is trying to get a rise out of you. You shouldn't care. You worry too much about what people think of you -- even this idiot clown. 1
Satu Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 (edited) The key to dealing with anger is externalising it. You can do this by: Speaking about it to a trustworthy person, writing about it, or any other means of expression that works for you. Anger is very physical, so physical ways of externalising it can be be particularly helpful. Some examples are: Going to a place where nobody can hear you and shouting it out as loud as you can, for as long as you can. Hitting a punch bag until you can't punch any more. Breaking something, and then breaking the fragments, until the pieces are small enough to grind beneath your boot/shoe. Slashing up cardboard boxes (pycho-style) with a big knife. ( This was a favourite of mine ) You can think about this and come up with your own ideas. Good luck. Edited February 11, 2015 by Satu
stillafool Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 Frankly Ashley, I think you should be more angry with your brother than this guy. Your brother should have said "My sister is not crazy, please don't ask me about her again." Afterall, he is your family and his first loyalty should be to you. BTW, when I see my friends I ask about their sisters and bros as well. 1
todreaminblue Posted February 12, 2015 Posted February 12, 2015 crazy is subjective.......i would rather be called crazy than normal......horrible things are done in the state of normalcy.......cold...callous cruel things.....let them call you crazy....you do know that you really arent crazy right? when they say it to you....say right back atcha......love you too,..huge toothy smile.....then walk off dragging your leg behind you...ok the leg dragging thing might be a bit dramatic...... you really do have better things to think of than who considers you to be a normal person and who doesnt consider you to be normal......do your thang...be proud...be you.........deb
travelbug1996 Posted February 12, 2015 Posted February 12, 2015 Why do you care so much what this miscellaneous person thinks? Toughen up. Not unless you think you're crazy.
SycamoreCircle Posted February 12, 2015 Posted February 12, 2015 Todd, Josh, Darlene, Eric, Suzie, May, Otto, Norman, Paolo, Schmitty---this orbit of people means way too much to you. You want us to care what they think just as much. Ain't happening. Give up your control. What anyone thinks about you is their business. Live your life. Care about the people who are close to you. Stop worrying about your reputation. As my mom likes to say, "People most usually are thinking about themselves, never mind what you're up to."
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