missk803 Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 (edited) I recently met a new guy that I seem to hit it off with so far but while having a conversation with him, I find out he's 48 years old, which makes him about 16 years older than me. I expected him to say he was in his early 30s because he really doesn't look like he is almost 50 years old. He asked me if I thought he was too old for me and my immediate thought was "yes" but I kind of what to give him a chance, so I told him we could get to know each other a little more and see how it goes. I've never dating a much older man before but I'm not completely against the idea either, besides, it's not like I have been having much luck with men that are my own age lately. I just think about the fact that he is closer to my parents ages and if he does have children, they may be closer to my age. All of this might make things a little awkward at first. I would like to hear what others experienced dating someone over 10 years older or younger than them? Should I do it, should I say no? Edited February 11, 2015 by missk803
d0nnivain Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 One some levels it's no different then anybody else however, when you start to reminisce it will show the differences. What was good music for you in high school was kiddie pop to him. Technology that you take for granted may not have existed for him.
Gaeta Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 Depends on the individual. One of my ex was 11 years older. I was 34 and he was 45. The 4 years we were together I did not feel much difference in our level of energy. Fast forward 10 years after our relationship, I am now 49 and he's 60. I can't see myself with a 60 yo man today. Him particularly because his level of energy has drop drastically and he's dealing with many health issues. On the other hand my mother is 68 and I cannot freakin follow her an entire day!! She drives me crazy she never ever stops! She's always on the go, she would have no problem dating a man 10 years younger than her. 1
PinkInTheLimo Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 You are 32 if I do the math correctly. There is absolutely no reason for you to be with a guy that much older. Do you want kids? He'll be an old dad. On top of it his sperm might no longer be of good quality and you could end up with disabled kids. Let the 48 year old guys for women like me (I'm 50 although noone seems to believe it). You are a good deal for the 48 year old but he is not a good deal for you. When you will be 60 he will be 76, maybe with health problems. Big age differences are felt when you get older.
fronk Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 I don't think it matters that much to be honest. I was 43 and my ex was 34, never felt our age was any type of issue. In many ways she was much more mature than I was.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 If you want kids, he will be almost 70 when they go to college. =)
PinkInTheLimo Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 I don't think it matters that much to be honest. I was 43 and my ex was 34, never felt our age was any type of issue. In many ways she was much more mature than I was. Well of course as an older guy who got the younger woman you will say that it does not matter! But would you have got together with a woman 9 years your senior?
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