spanishchick00 Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 I signed back up on okcupid. So, I get like quite a few messages, then after like 5 messages after the conversation is flowing. The guy stops responding. I'm like wth? My god.
Frank2thepoint Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 You need rules for maintaining a conversation with another person? Do you push the conversation, such as engaging the man with questions that show more than just superficial interest? Do you flirt? Are you open with your conversation that he wants to ask you out?
central Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 Most people want to meet very quickly, if there is mutual interest. If they are asking and you are putting them off, that could be a reason. Otherwise, if you are not engaging them with relevant questions, they may lose interest. It's the internet - there's always someone else along in a few minutes!
d0nnivain Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 By 5 messages if it hasn't progressed to off-line to at least a phone call with an eye toward meeting, these guys disappear on you because they think you only want a pen pal
PinkInTheLimo Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 First of all: there are no rules. You decide what your rules is. Secondly, conversations which stop without any warning is very typical for datingsite. I was talking for 10 days to a guy, really great long emails about music, sports, etc... So you think: this could go somewhere. Well all of a sudden the guy has apparently suspended his membership. No announcement, no reason. Some years ago I would have taken it personally. I don't do that any longer. If the guy appears again and contacts me, I will of course tell him that I am no longer interested in someone who is that rude. It's anonymous so for some people that reason enough to let out their rude side. 1
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 OP, as a guy I'll bite. Be sure that when you message the guy that you are putting thought into your messages. Be sure that you don't leave the conversation in a dead end by just answering his question(s) and saying nothing in return. At least appear to be interested in them. I've had cases where women will message me but come off as extremely boring / disinterested and I will just stop responding. 1
smackie9 Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 In a sea of dating site options, people that go radio silence is because they found a better option. IMO if they don't ask you for a date pretty quickly, they are weighing their options with the 6 other women they are messaging....somebody else won.
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