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There's a guy that works in the same store as me (for the record, we work for different companies and are never in close quarters with each other. I see him in passing maybe twice a day, of that). He is a secret shopper, and is undercover for his whole shift. On the rare occasion that he talks to me, it is to ask if I've seen this customer, or to fetch a manager for him, and it's always whispered and rushed. He introduced himself to me and chatted a bit on his first day, and I really like him.

 

I issue I face is that I can get in a lot of trouble for talking to him when he is undercover. I'm a strong believer of saying everything face to face, but the only solution I can come up with is writing him a note with my phone number on it. What I'm wondering is if that is the best way to go about it or if I should try something else? Help! ?

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I can come up with is writing him a note with my phone number on it.

 

Noooooo! Dont begin doing something like this! You are not drunk in a bar looking he singing on stage.

 

 

I issue I face is that I can get in a lot of trouble for talking to him when he is undercover.

 

You have a small issue here - I would never try to talk with him in a situation that would expose him - but a little of emotion during a fast talk could help you in your favor - a not too dangerous emotional situation of being catch, could help you to make him more interested in you - I saw a research about this.

 

I would do it slow: Begin with a smile, be cool, try to made small jokes with the situation.

 

Maybe you will find him on a less trouble place like outside the shop and you could just say something like: "oh your job is so interesting, I'm very curious about it" - but dont exaggerate - on a second situation you could say like "remember... you promised to teach me how to steal that shop... lol"

 

Mas are very visual - so considering always using make up and use your best dress during work.

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Well once he leaves the shop he is just a man on the street. Clobber him then! :D

 

Book something up that you think he may like, a film or something and just ask if he wants to go with you before you offer the tickets to one of your friends. If he says no you still get to go out and have fun. Win win all round.

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"Sir, Sir, excuse me! you dropped your number. Here, you can have mine."

 

Never failed me yet. Except I am more of the Ma'am style, and I have never tried it. Though it may work in your case.

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Are you sure you even want to try getting involved with somebody you work with? It can be a recipe for disaster.

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Doesn't the fact that you know he's a secret shopper pretty much destroy the purpose of him being there?

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