fronk Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 7 days of NC with ex now but thinking its going to be very hard not to break contact since I just found out that she is going to be in town this coming week as she had previously told me. Short background....3+ year relationship, broke up in December and got back together over Xmas. Well last week she finally revealed to me that she had been seeing someone else since October. Told me at the same time she still wanted to get together when she was home. I didn't respond. Later that night I got drunk and basically told her to GTH and that I hated her and asked her what planet she was from to think I would want to see her when she got home?? Next day she texts me saying how sorry she was. I told her I hated her for betraying me and how much she has hurt me. She said my hate was justified and how infinitely sorry she was for what she did and that she screwed it all up and lied about it and wished she could fix it. She said how bad she felt about it all. I told her ya I bet...its called guilt. Next day she text me that despite my hatred for her she still wanted to wish me a happy Bday. I softened my tone quite a bit and told her that I didn't hate her and that I was just shocked and disappointed in her. She told me she is shocked and disappointed in herself as well and that she cares for me and that is why she didn't tell me sooner I guess. I told her we can't change the past but can only move forward. She said she agreed about moving forward as well. The last thing she said was she would wait to hear from me in my own time....whatever that means for me. I didn't respond. That was the last contact and now that I know she is coming back in town I desperately want to text her. I do think I want to still be friends with her and I believe she does too based on her last text to me. I think as she is an amazing person and has made me look at life differently and be a better person. We were never incredibly close and I can say that I never loved her which is why I think there may be a chance we could still be friends.
CarrieT Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 I didn't need to read the "short" background. Your opening sentence said it: SEVEN DAYS NC. Way too soon - don't do it. Seven MONTHS, maybe.... 1
Author fronk Posted February 11, 2015 Author Posted February 11, 2015 Thanks for the responses....I thought the difference in my situation however was that we were never truly in love and I am beginning to realize that now. In some ways you could say what we really had was a great friendship all along and I don't want to lose that.
CarrieT Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 .I thought the difference in my situation however was that we were never truly in love Three Years and this is what you come away with? Nope - leave her alone. 1
Simon Phoenix Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 Thanks for the responses....I thought the difference in my situation however was that we were never truly in love and I am beginning to realize that now. In some ways you could say what we really had was a great friendship all along and I don't want to lose that. Those are some major mental gymnastics you are trying to perform to justify you screwing yourself over. 1
Nolan 93 Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 Don't do it brother!!!! Hell my ex is at her ex's place every other day, and its not even five minutes away. If I can resist the urge so can you. It is whats best to do Full NC. 2
Author fronk Posted February 11, 2015 Author Posted February 11, 2015 Thanks everyone. Honestly I still don't know what I am going to do, I love to just lie and say that I am strong enough to remain NC.
mightycpa Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 Thanks everyone. Honestly I still don't know what I am going to do, I love to just lie and say that I am strong enough to remain NC. I don't get it.. you were never in love, but you need no contact? Why? 1
Author fronk Posted February 11, 2015 Author Posted February 11, 2015 (edited) I don't get it.. you were never in love, but you need no contact? Why? That was my original thought as well.... Edited February 11, 2015 by fronk
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