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So today my ex and I had our first normal and friendly conversation since the break up.

 

During the conversation I was like, I miss you, hate to admit it but I do.

 

His response was, do I miss the relationship? No, do I miss the ( f word ) out of you, yea a lot.

 

Then I was like well yeah that relationship is dead in my eyes.

His response was, well who knows. But yeah I miss you.

 

What does that even mean? Esp his first response. How would you take it?

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Sounds like you were awesome when you first started dating, then got kinda crazy during the relationship. Seems like a lot of girls drop all efforts of normalcy when they think they've got their claws into a guy, and really let the crazy loose! :p

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So today my ex and I had our first normal and friendly conversation since the break up.

 

During the conversation I was like, I miss you, hate to admit it but I do.

 

His response was, do I miss the relationship? No, do I miss the ( f word ) out of you, yea a lot.

 

Then I was like well yeah that relationship is dead in my eyes.

His response was, well who knows. But yeah I miss you.

 

What does that even mean? Esp his first response. How would you take it?

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So today my ex and I had our first normal and friendly conversation since the break up.

 

During the conversation I was like, I miss you, hate to admit it but I do.

 

His response was, do I miss the relationship? No, do I miss the ( f word ) out of you, yea a lot.

 

Then I was like well yeah that relationship is dead in my eyes.

His response was, well who knows. But yeah I miss you.

 

What does that even mean? Esp his first response. How would you take it?

 

I'll take a stab at it, I believe he means yes he misses you but doesn't miss being in a relationship with you. Just a hunch

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Lol I know the obvious. Does that mean he still has feelings?

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Lol I know the obvious. Does that mean he still has feelings?

 

Not as far as being in a relationship with you

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sounds to me what he is saying is that he absolutely misses you for the person you are but that once you two were in a relationship, the expectations (or you within) a relationship took over and overrode the good things.

 

Sounds like he is not ruling out getting back together but he absolutely never wants to go back to the way the relationship you had before was.

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people behave in the beginning. they hold back their self esteem/jealousy/psychoness issues till they feel comfortable. then they show their true side. controlling or nagging or nitpicking and dont show the same restraint and manners they had before.

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He doesn't miss the RS at all but he does miss you as a person.

 

 

He won't be considering getting back together in any way though as the RS has put him off. Maybe it was too drama filled.

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It means he misses you as a friend and misses talking to you and chatting with you and stuff like that, but he doesnt miss the romantic closeness that you shared.

 

in other words, he would probably be open to being a casual facebook friend with you, where you can like one of his photos every six months and he will do the same to you, but he is not open to being with you again

 

personally, I am all or nothing. I tell every single girl who has ever dumped me that if they dump me it is final - we are not going to be 'just friends' EVER, not acquaintances ever, NOTHING, if she dumps me I will never ever speak a word to her again, and I mean that - I dont mean we will be friends years down the line, I mean NEVER.

 

The girls have all agreed to that and while none asked for me back as a romantic partner, a few did send "hi how are you" type breadcrumbs some months down the line. I ignored every text message, deleted it without responding.

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I understand how he feels because my ex and I are going through the same thing. He most likely misses you on a platonic level. He misses you as a person, your personality, etc. Your relationship didn't work out (for valid reasons, I gather), and those are the reasons he does not miss the relationship.

 

My ex boyfriend and I dated for 4 years. We went through a lot, and we were there for each other when we had no one. We're best friends and we made good roommates, but romantically, we couldn't make each other happy. We miss each other's company, but we don't want what we had.

 

I hope this helps. Boys are confusing. ?

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It means:

 

You need to stop having this kind of conversation with him, getting confused by his responses, and analyzing every word he says. Just let it go. It's over. Move on.

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It's basically saying that he doesn't miss the relationship, nonetheless he misses you a lot. His reply "Well who knows'' when you said that the relationship was dead in your eyes, show's that he see's that theirs possible potential for the relationship again.

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He misses your vagina.

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If you think about it carefully, you'll realize that he likes your current relationship (broken up) a lot better than your previous relationship (together). If this is true, then what he's really saying is that being separated from you is taking some getting used to. So, that's pretty normal.

 

I get the sense that he liked you perfectly fine, but that's as far as it goes.

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He misses your vagina.

 

I am going for this one too.

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It means both of you miss being part of a couple, having somebody to do things with & talk to.

 

 

He may be trying to say he misses the physical aspect of your relationship & is trying to see how you feel about a FWB situation.

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