crazycanuck86 Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 Standerd sanario I send a message to a girl on a online dating site she replys we exchange a few messages back and forth, and then nothing.....she just stops replying, during the messages I'm always polite, i not needy in any way, and i do my best not to seem like a creep....So if we send a couple of messages back and forth and she just stops replying. What dose that mean? Is she testing me? Its hard to tell with someone who you never met and only been talking to online with from about a week to six months Is her ex back, did she find someone more intersting, or did she lose intrest? If so then that's fine because I'm not the overly emotional needy type....and frankly I rather have a girl straight up tell me why she stops replying instead of just leaving me hanging. Anyways thank you for reading my question turned borderline rant and ladies please just let me know what's up with that.
BluEyeL Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 It could be anything. When I stopped replying it was usually because they didn't ask me out and I got tired of the endless messaging that wasn't going anywhere. 2
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 Yeah be sure that you make a move and ask them out for a drink (something casual, low stress) before long or they will stop replying... Also avoid asking for a Phone Number until you at least meet in person first. Otherwise if you're coming off as needy or responding too quick (like right away), that can turn women off. OR they could have met someone more interesting. Really hard to tell.. Online dating is a numbers game. Good luck!
rosyfuture Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 The number one reason I stop replying is that they didnt keep the conversation going. If they don't ask a question, I will not reply.
Revan32 Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 Lol dude have you seriously talked to a girl online for 6 months without asking to meet her? I ask the girl for her number after the third message, then if she gives it, I immediately try and schedule a date sometime that week. Girls get sent dozens of messages a day. You can't expect to have a long boring conversation with them when they are being bombarded with other guys messaging them. You have to get in and get out with her number and a solid date as fast as you can. 1
Author crazycanuck86 Posted February 11, 2015 Author Posted February 11, 2015 Lol dude have you seriously talked to a girl online for 6 months without asking to meet her? /QUOTE] Yes I have talked to a girl for six months online, the only reason why we didn't meet up is because she lives in Mexico City and I live in Vancouver Canada that is actually quite long walk, but we did agree that one was going to visit the other eventually until she just stopped replying... Look I know what you are saying and I do ask them out for coffee or drinks the ones that still reply that is. Some say yes and some say no fact of life.
Frank2thepoint Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 Its hard to tell with someone who you never met and only been talking to online with from about a week to six months I can't imagine talking to someone for six months and not ask them out. Even a week can be too long. Think of it this way. If you met a person fortuitously somewhere that you had a quick but chemistry-laden conversation, wouldn't you take an opportunity to ask for their number and get a date? Don't drag it out, otherwise the other person will assume you are not serious and wasting their time.
Author crazycanuck86 Posted February 11, 2015 Author Posted February 11, 2015 The girl I was talking to online for six months was a long distance online relationship, she lives in mexico and I live in Canada...but I get what you are saying thanks
An0nymiss666 Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 You can't come on forums and expect us to know a detailed answer as to whether someone is back with their ex, or not interested, etc. Not trying to be mean. I know you're just asking for our input, but that's all we can give is our opinions. If it was so sudden, it's understandable to want an explanation but most of the time you don't get one. Especially over online/long distance relationships. Which sucks. Since it's been so long, months and not a day or a week, I personally would've given you an explanation. With me, it's usually because I just didn't feel a spark or any big interest in continuing further conversation. A lot of the time the guy doesn't even seem interested in conversation (well why did he even initiate it?) or just seems interested in a hookup which isn't what I want. Also like somebody else said, too much meaningless conversation is annoying. Like are we here to try something out or just talk incessantly about nothing? This, however, doesn't seem to apply to your situation. It's tough but maybe she just didn't feel the same and didn't see it going anywhere, especially being so far away. It sucks and I'm sorry, but be honest with yourself...it's not the greatest situation.
thecrucible Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 Sometimes I just get too busy in real life and neglect my online dating account. Or I start seeing someone in real life but keep it open. It could be either of those. There's absolutely no point in overanalysing it.
RedRobin Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 It's like having a conversation with someone in the checkout aisle of the grocery store... you are both there at the same time at the same place making friendly conversation... then the teller interrupts you.. or your kid starts crying.. you think "oh dang, I forgot the bread"... and when you get back to the check out aisle, the person you were talking to is through the line and out the door. *shrug* Total stranger. Unless the conversation was compelling, or you had a reason to extend the conversation past a few friendly sentences, it wasn't destined to go anywhere. That's the problem with OLD. Its lines and lines of checkout aisles. Nothing else to keep you there really. No mutual friends, no daily draws of routine (unless you both get milk and bread at the same time every week)...
Omei Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 With online dating I try not to respond to men I feel that I have no interest in so I don't offer false hopes. Once and a while someone will say something to break that silence and I find myself responding to something they said that was worth responding too while I still have no interest in them but thats just a response of kindness and I find a way to drop out of the conversation perhaps she does the same.
rocketman122 Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 youre just boring her and youre not escalating it to a phone call. youre too passive. simple as that. she had a few texts but you didnt lead and it fizzled. there are a lot like you. they paka paka but dont do anything. I never have more than 1-3 texts before I get a number and call. and usually the phone call is that same day. texts mean jack shet. ultimate goal is face to face. then they cant hide behind a monitor and I see their body language.
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