harnold Posted February 10, 2015 Share Posted February 10, 2015 I'll make this short. So I'm coming off a period of no contact with my ex gf. We haven't been talking long, but I can tell she missed me (just as I missed her). She implied that she wants to see me soon, and I'm imagining most likely that'll be this weekend. However, as we all know, this weekend is valentines day. No, I have no intentions to do anything "special" with her, as it simply wouldn't be appropriate, but its still interesting that this of all weekends will be our hangout. I'm supposed to text her to make plans. Obv I don't wanna ask her to do something Saturday, because I don't want that to swing the wrong way. So how should I ask her when is good to hang out? Maybe just something as simple as asking her what day is good this weekend, and letting her choose it? Sorry if this is a silly question lol it def seems silly now that im reading it PS: I left out alot of details because they aren't really relevant to my question (why we broke up, etc). My question is just simple: how do I approach seeing her this weekend. Link to post Share on other sites
darkbloom Posted February 11, 2015 Share Posted February 11, 2015 I would ask her when she is free and let her decide. That way you have put the ball in her court and she can make the decision of which day. If she picks a day before Saturday and it goes really well, maybe she will suggest to hang out on VDay as well. I would tread very lightly though since she suggested hanging out, she should be the one to pick the day. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Alexjones1 Posted February 11, 2015 Share Posted February 11, 2015 I would pick up the phone, call her, and make a definitive time and place. Like hey, Can you do drinks at 730 at so and so....if she says no, then ask her what time works, if she says I have to get back to you, then hang up with her and wait for her to contact you again. if its two weeks just wait. You asserted your manliness in the situation. She will call eventually or go out with you.. Alex Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted February 11, 2015 Share Posted February 11, 2015 It sounds to me like you misused NC in an attempt to manipulate her to miss you & it "worked". The fact that you miss each other does not mean that you fixed whatever the problems were that drove you to break up in the 1st place. Unless those problems have been addressed, hanging out again is going backwards in life. If that is what you want to do, fine but do it next weekend. However, if you really want to get back together, just have a romantic Valentine's day -- seriously go all in -- & reconcile. Stop playing games. Link to post Share on other sites
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