esteny1988 Posted February 10, 2015 Posted February 10, 2015 I'm a 26 year old female and met this guy (he's 30 years old) a month ago while out celebrating a friend's bday. He asked for my number and we have subsequently been on 3 dates. I initiated planning the 3rd date but he seemed really intent on seeing me despite our schedules being complicated. We had great conversation and it ended with a really nice kiss (as did the other dates). I'm just a bit confused as I haven't heard from him since then, and I'm wondering if a text I sent him had anything to do with it. I saw him Saturday afternoon for a museum visit and then we both had plans Sat. night so we parted ways. I was a bit drunk on Sat. night and hoping just maybe we could meet up later that night. I had such a great time that afternoon and thought we clicked really well, and there was the amazing kiss at the end. This is what I texted him: Me: This is terrible... you're busy allll night? Him: I am. Birthday party. What's up? Me: Just checking. I feel like I came across as propositioning him, when really I was just a bit drunk at this party and wasn't having a great time (really crowded bar). Would that be enough of a turn-off? If not, why would the date end in such a great kiss and then I don't hear from him again? Is the ball in my court to text him?
DatingDirection Posted February 10, 2015 Posted February 10, 2015 Whatever you do, DO NOT TEXT HIM AGAIN! That's just my opinion. The text that you sent him could have been taken in many ways: 1. You're checking up on him, 2. You are totally hooked on him, he has you in the palm of his hands. 3. You were looking for a hookup. Just wait for him to contact you. If you really need to explain your late night text, just text him a week later, casually, and friendly, but at a decent time of the day, so he won't think you're looking for a hookup, if you're not. 3
Author esteny1988 Posted February 10, 2015 Author Posted February 10, 2015 Ok, one of my friends told me I should text him again casually but I don't think I should. I really don't think he's that into me. This was saturday and it's now Tuesday night and he hasn't texted me.
DatingDirection Posted February 10, 2015 Posted February 10, 2015 It's only Tuesday, he could be playing the lame, wait 3 days before contacting you game, and may even wait a bit longer, since you sent him that text on Saturday b/c he knows now that you are definitely into him. He could still be interested in you, just wait a week, before you text him.
Author esteny1988 Posted February 11, 2015 Author Posted February 11, 2015 I don't think he's like that. I mean I initiated scheduling the 3rd date but he seemed into it. Ohhh well.
Versacehottie Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 don't forget that this coming saturday is valentines day. It's a phenomena that my friends and i joke about. Guys (and girls) often shut down the week prior so as not to have to define a new relationship or get stuck in the quicksand that is this day! Wait til he reaches out to you. After all you sent the last text. He owes you the next one.
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