Brentune Posted February 10, 2015 Posted February 10, 2015 Have a previous post explaining the long and wonderful relationship. Anyways, ex-girlfriend has been gone for over a month now. We tried to be friends, but kept arguing and I've done some pretty stupid things. Facebook stalk, and finding little clues here and there revolving a guy she had left me for. Eventually, we argued so much about this new guy that she decided to block me from FB, Phone Number, etc. Found out three days ago that she had unblocked me. She also doesn't seem completely invested in the guy she's with. While she spends most nights with him, she doesn't make their affection public, not like how it was when she was with me. Even before going out, she would constantly write about me, post pictures up, and mention me on FB throughout the day. With him, she talks about missing previous flings, never being in love with any guys, and leaving little to no detail that she's dating him. I know it seems like I'm reading too much into it, but after so much constant arguments she seems to always try and come around. Do you think I may be able to get her back? I plan to go NC and talking to her maybe two or three months down the line...
Chi townD Posted February 10, 2015 Posted February 10, 2015 Have a previous post explaining the long and wonderful relationship. Anyways, ex-girlfriend has been gone for over a month now. We tried to be friends, but kept arguing and I've done some pretty stupid things. Facebook stalk, and finding little clues here and there revolving a guy she had left me for. Eventually, we argued so much about this new guy that she decided to block me from FB, Phone Number, etc. Found out three days ago that she had unblocked me. She also doesn't seem completely invested in the guy she's with. While she spends most nights with him, she doesn't make their affection public, not like how it was when she was with me. Even before going out, she would constantly write about me, post pictures up, and mention me on FB throughout the day. With him, she talks about missing previous flings, never being in love with any guys, and leaving little to no detail that she's dating him. I know it seems like I'm reading too much into it, but after so much constant arguments she seems to always try and come around. Do you think I may be able to get her back? I plan to go NC and talking to her maybe two or three months down the line... No, you won't get her back. NC is for you and your healing. Not, to try and get her to miss you and then re-establish contact. So, she's not open about her relationship with others about this guy. Could be other factor's you're not even considering. Sounds like she left you for this dude. Therefore, she's going to keep it on the "down low" because people know she was LITERALLY just with you. She doesn't want people guessing that she's a cheater or giving her a hard time with comments like, "Oh! Who's the new guy of the week?" If she unblocked you, then you go in there and block her! You're in NC and you don't need to see her posting crap about him. Maybe she did it because she's about ready to go fully public with this guy and wants to rub your face in it. You never know! She was pissed enough to block you, she might be vindictive enough to rub it in your face! So, yeah. You're reading too much into it. 1
Seeker12 Posted February 10, 2015 Posted February 10, 2015 Have a previous post explaining the long and wonderful relationship. Anyways, ex-girlfriend has been gone for over a month now. We tried to be friends, but kept arguing and I've done some pretty stupid things. Me and my ex tried to be friends with exactly the same consequences, although i was never dumped and broke up for other reasons, i was on the literal verge of stalking, but thought many things, like how its creepy, unfair on my ex, and my time could be used better elsewhere. Regardless mate, just go full NC, its for you, your benefit, youll never carry on with your life if you get bogged down trying to analyse hers. Probably not what you want to hear, its hard, hey i dont know what my ex is up to, theres bits of me that seriously want to, then other bits which treat her like any old strange girl who id say hi and bye to on the street. Its a hard process and thing to accept, but when they are gone, you have to tell yourself they are gone, and they wont give you the time of day anymore, thats just how it is. There really is substance to the old term, similar to this, let your love go, if they come back, it was always meant to be.
jam3s84 Posted February 10, 2015 Posted February 10, 2015 Sounds like a clear NC to me too. My ex is similar in a lot of ways but for me I had to look at her patterns of behavior and realize she was going to keep cycling through men no matter what I did, how good I was, how much we argued etc. My ex has been, is, and unfortunately will always be using men as a means of keeping herself distracted from what is going on inside her. No matter what I did, I was never going to "fix" that and believe me I tried....everything...to. I may be reading into your situation too much because of my own experiences, but I have been on NC for 2 weeks now and its the best thing I have done through this process of a 3 year debacle I called a relationship. 2
Elle1975 Posted February 10, 2015 Posted February 10, 2015 You are reading too much into it. Unless she makes a direct move, it means nothing. As for trying to stay friends, it is always a bad idea. You can be friends, one day, when you won't be emotionally involved, but not right now.
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