dosequis Posted February 10, 2015 Posted February 10, 2015 My ex and I were together for 2 years. I was the one to push for the break up because she was never gonna change and I couldn't see her in my future anymore. She recently showed up unannounced at my work (restaurant/dance club). I work as a bartender. She showed up with a few for her girlfriends. Her and all of her friends completely ignored me except for one which came to say hi and order a drink. My ex walked around the place like she owned it, talking to everybody in sight and pretending to be super good friends with everyone. I basically smiled and kept working not letting it affect me. It's been 2 months since the BU and one month NC. Here what's I don't understand: 1- I know she loves to dance salsa but there are other things to do Friday nights and there other places that have salsa dancing on Saturday nights where she can go. 2- She knows I only work every second Friday so she could have gone on a night when I was not working. 3- Her and her friends stayed only until closed. They usually leave before close but not this time. As soon as the lights came on I counted my tips and left. I never stay when I'm done working to chat with people so I wasn't going to this time. So my question is what was her deal? If any?
Ieris Posted February 10, 2015 Posted February 10, 2015 She was putting on a show for you, which is kind of lame when they make it that obvious. The message she is trying to send is that she can have a good time with or without you but clearly she still craves your attention...
Stercrazy Posted February 23, 2015 Posted February 23, 2015 I agree. She knew you would be working that night. She just wanted you to see "the great person you are missing." She wants your attention and if did say hello to her she probably would have blown you off just for spite. You played it well. Keep doing what your doing.
Author dosequis Posted May 12, 2016 Author Posted May 12, 2016 So it's been over a year and my ex suddenly shows up to my work. She comes up to the bar and says "hi" all smiley. I got straight to business and asked her "what can I get you?". She stays all night dancing until about 10 minutes to 2am. I finish my shift and go home. It's now about 2:10am and I receive a text from her. It says: I really hope one day you can stop being so distant and awkward when I'm around. It's been a long time and the past is the past. Hope all is well and please understand this is not my attempt at anything other than trying to decrease the awkwardness. You can't hate me forever. Take care. I don't hate her but I don't go out of my way to make conversation with her. I'm not sure what her deal is. I have not responded to her and I'm not planning to. Any ideas of what's up with her and why she cares so much as to why I don't talk to her?
Simon Phoenix Posted May 12, 2016 Posted May 12, 2016 Who knows? Why does it matter exactly? Trying to figure out why another person does is a waste of your time.
LD1990 Posted May 12, 2016 Posted May 12, 2016 Here, I'll translate her message for you: I really hope one day you can stop being so distant and awkward when I'm around. It's been a long time and the past is the past. Hope all is well and please understand this is not my attempt at anything other than trying to decrease the awkwardness. You can't hate me forever. Take care. "I really hope you start worshiping the ground I walk on when I make a point to show up at the bar you work. It has been a long time and I need to know you still want me. I'm pretending I give a damn about your life but please don't for a second think this is about anything other than boosting my own ego. You can't ignore me forever, because I'm just gonna keep showing up. I just cooked your pet rabbit."
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