BUTTERFLY890 Posted February 10, 2015 Posted February 10, 2015 How normal is it too really be into your boyfriend for a while and then think about breaking up with him. Ive been with my boyfriend for about a year now. We work really well together and he's my best friend. I can't help but think their is something missing sometimes. He's perfect in every way imaginable. Am i over thinking? We will be really good and after a couple weeks for a few days or a week ill kinda think that we should break up. There is no real reason or a direct cause of a fight when i feel like this, But this cycle NEVER STOPS please help! Am i being selfish for being with him? I love him so much and he loves me but I am only 22 and sometimes just feel the need to run wild and free but i really do love him. I am confused.. I ALWAYS go back and forth its kind of annoying:D
mightycpa Posted February 10, 2015 Posted February 10, 2015 Ah yes... By all means, break up with him. But you know what? Don't blindside him, that's going to be pretty rough on his heart. Instead, break it to him in stages. Be honest next time you see him... say something like You know, I don't want to make a big deal of this right now, or get into some serious conversation, but it's weird. Like right now, I feel great being with you. But sometimes, I don't know, it's like I've lost interest, or maybe like I wonder who else might be out there for me. I feel crappy about it, but I think it's important that you know about it. I don't want to hide things from you Do you ever feel like that? A few of those conversations over the next couple of weeks should prep him for the inevitable. Then, ever so sweetly and reluctantly, let him go and go see what color the grass is in those other pastures.
preraph Posted February 10, 2015 Posted February 10, 2015 Run wild. This is the age to do it. You need to explore. You need to find your path and follow it and not just wait to see what happens. Maybe there are things you can do while still with him like travel and go out more with girlfriends. But if you want to flirt and date others, it's best to break up. You're really too young to settle down. It is a shame he is so perfect, but if that's not keeping you entertained, then it's doomed. You've got to tell him he's absolutely perfect but that you are young and need to explore and not place any blame on him.
Revan32 Posted February 10, 2015 Posted February 10, 2015 Ahh I can see how this ends now. Girl is in a great relationship, gets bored of being too comfortable and dumps boy. Girl starts running around dating every hot guy she's felt she's been missing out on. After a few years of failing to tie down said hot guys, girl realizes she's now old, has a way too high lay count, and is pretty much undesirable to all the men she now wants to settle with. Marries a guy way less perfect than original boyfriend, and lives a semi-happy life for 10 years until her first divorce of many. But go ahead, drop this "perfect" guy of yours. I'm sure you'll have lots of fun for a few years. And the pound always need lonely middle aged women to adopt cats. 1
Frank2thepoint Posted February 10, 2015 Posted February 10, 2015 I can't help but think their is something missing sometimes. He's perfect in every way imaginable. These two consecutive sentences contradict each other. You are all over the place. You are happy, but unhappy at the same time. I think it would be best for you to end the relationship with your boyfriend, allowing him to find someone that isn't as emotional moody as you. Then you should work on yourself, figure out why you feel this way. Also since you are young, I don't recommend getting into a relationship for a long while, just date, have fun, but do work on resolving your erratic emotions and thoughts.
Author BUTTERFLY890 Posted February 11, 2015 Author Posted February 11, 2015 this "perfect" guy may be a good guy and everything but that doesn't mean he's perfect for me. I just feel an emotional disconnect and something is missing and my gut has always told me this. So i guess I've answered my own question. P.S. you don't have to be rude about it. People come here for advice not stupid comments.
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