AdverseYaw Posted February 10, 2015 Posted February 10, 2015 We've met online for a month now. We've discussed shared interests, and a lot of interesting things we had in common. Everything we spoke about was platonic and about work, nothing else. Then after a while, I spoke of perverted men online bothering me. He then consolated me that if it comforts me, he will not propose to me then. I said that he would be the least of my concerns if he did that and I'd be flattered. Then, we starting flirting back and forth, discussing about a long term and distance relationship. He even showed me pictures of his family and spoke about them. Then recently, it got sexual. He started explaining what he wants to do with me, and I responded to them positively. However, the cybersex really started when he said he wants to lose his virginity to me right away, so I offered to roleplay the scenario out. He then also admits he faps to my photos (yuck). Afterwards, he told me he would love to speak to me tomorrow again, and wishes me a goodnight. When I wrote "About last night..." <- ONLY THIS. He never replied or read the message. Is it pretty much over? I regret this so much and now he might think of me as lowly and unworthy.
LookAtThisPOst Posted February 10, 2015 Posted February 10, 2015 Hey, it's better than it REALLY happening, right? 2
Author AdverseYaw Posted February 10, 2015 Author Posted February 10, 2015 Haha, I guess. At least I'm still a virgin. I wish we can just forget that night and be friends/even more again.
Author AdverseYaw Posted February 10, 2015 Author Posted February 10, 2015 This was our last conversation: Him: What was ur conclusion? Holy crap its 3am here. I have to sleep... sorry. I'll talk to u tomorrow though ME: Um, one thing. Can we date before we do this? Him: Sure. Of course we would ME:Because if it's straight away it'll be really weird. Him: Agreed. ME: We won't regret this? Him: Ok goodnight. I don't know will find out tomorrow ME: Tomorrow, you want to discuss the terms and conditions? Him:Haha sure. Talk then. ME: Goodnight. *The next day* About last night... ... then he officially went MIA.
Toodaloo Posted February 10, 2015 Posted February 10, 2015 Oh dear. He got his rocks off and disappeared... Blokes do this when you have real sex with them too. At least you have learnt now before you took your knickers off for real. Let him go and don't bother with him. He is the sort that would get you into a one night stand and run off. Also known as flakey etc. Be careful in future. Before you do anything stop and think. Ask yourself how you would feel if it goes wrong and think again. Then if you are comfortable go ahead. If not stop and change direction. 2
Els Posted February 10, 2015 Posted February 10, 2015 OP, I'm concerned about you. How old are you? Have you dated other guys in real life before? (I know you said you're a virgin, but that isn't necessarily the same thing as never having dated). Was your roleplay text/voice-only, or with webcam and photos? Does he have any nude pics of you?
Author AdverseYaw Posted February 10, 2015 Author Posted February 10, 2015 I never sent him any pictures. He did, however, send his torso and face to me. In the roleplay, there was a lot of passionate making out and foreplay. We got to the intercourse for a little while before he came. I don't know if I still got a chance with him. It was so promising at the start. We spoke about how we could fly together, have picnic, do paranormal investigations, engineer paper planes, and he showed me his family. We spoke about friendly and normal things for a month. If someone exposed this ,I'd get expelled from flying school and he'd get kicked from his cadetship.
Andy_K Posted February 10, 2015 Posted February 10, 2015 What exactly was he supposed to reply to 'about last night...'? It sounds like you were going to say more, and then you didn't. He's got every right to think *you're* the one who is being weird about this. Until you send a proper message, you're both as bad as each other. 1
gaius Posted February 10, 2015 Posted February 10, 2015 Why would you both get expelled for having cyber sex? And it's an honor when a guy faps to your photos. 1
Author AdverseYaw Posted February 10, 2015 Author Posted February 10, 2015 Guys, he just sent me this: Can we forget it ever happened I feel incredibly weird about it What does it mean???
trolloperative Posted February 10, 2015 Posted February 10, 2015 He wants to forget the cybersex happened and continue being friends.
kendahke Posted February 10, 2015 Posted February 10, 2015 it means he feels incredibly weird about having cybersex with someone he's never met in person. go back to discussing innocuous things. Apparently, he must have taken your non message to mean you were fishing for something and not stating your case. Don't send open-ended messages if there is something you want to say--they can be interpreted in a myriad of ways which have nothing to do with what you were thinking. Own your voice and communicate your wishes.
Author AdverseYaw Posted February 10, 2015 Author Posted February 10, 2015 I told him if he wants to start off as friends again and see where this goes. He says it's a very good idea. I don't know if he is still attracted to me of some sort. I have no idea if he somehow detected that I was uncomfortable and hiding away from him in Facebook.
Mrin Posted February 10, 2015 Posted February 10, 2015 I told him if he wants to start off as friends again and see where this goes. He says it's a very good idea. I don't know if he is still attracted to me of some sort. I have no idea if he somehow detected that I was uncomfortable and hiding away from him in Facebook. Honestly? He got turned on and horny talking to you. Probably was fapping away. He came. Then felt all awk about it. Who knows - maybe his mom or roommate caught him. Anyhow, now he's all embarrassed. I doubt he felt you getting distant on FB. If anything, he was hiding himself.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted February 10, 2015 Posted February 10, 2015 (edited) We've met online for a month now. We've discussed shared interests, and a lot of interesting things we had in common. Everything we spoke about was platonic and about work, nothing else. Then after a while, I spoke of perverted men online bothering me. He then consolated me that if it comforts me, he will not propose to me then. I said that he would be the least of my concerns if he did that and I'd be flattered. Then, we starting flirting back and forth, discussing about a long term and distance relationship. He even showed me pictures of his family and spoke about them. Then recently, it got sexual. He started explaining what he wants to do with me, and I responded to them positively. However, the cybersex really started when he said he wants to lose his virginity to me right away, so I offered to roleplay the scenario out. He then also admits he faps to my photos (yuck). Afterwards, he told me he would love to speak to me tomorrow again, and wishes me a goodnight. When I wrote "About last night..." <- ONLY THIS. He never replied or read the message. Is it pretty much over? I regret this so much and now he might think of me as lowly and unworthy. Sorry this happened to you, but you should have cut contact with him much earlier. Who cares what he thinks of you, there are better guys out there, don't get hung up on him. Just be sure you set clear boundaries/expectations -- otherwise guys might get confused what your intentions are. I would seriously move on, I'm willing to bet things are too awkward to salvage at this point. Speaking from a guy's perspective, he's probably just going into damage control mode right now since he senses you pulling away. Edited February 10, 2015 by barcode88
lovexocoach Posted February 10, 2015 Posted February 10, 2015 Move on. He's embarrassed about what he did. You're embarrassed about what happened. 2
Honeybunnies Posted February 10, 2015 Posted February 10, 2015 Yeah, he's backtracking with you. I wouldn't be surprised if he's doing this with other girls online, to be honest. If this is the same guy from your other thread, you're 18 and he's 20. Move on! You seem like an interesting person, you can easily find another guy.
Author AdverseYaw Posted February 11, 2015 Author Posted February 11, 2015 I still really feel bad about it. We've tried talking about aircraft and flight principles, but it has gotten so awkward because our cybersex revovled completely about aviation. I was an idiot But actually, do you think he still is somewhat attracted to me or wants to work things out if he messaged me that? I thought he would eventually just block me, lol.
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