(1st post) Should I give my ex daughter a birthday present?

[angie2443]

Good boy!!!

You handle things right and you can remain in her life.

I just met my ex's daughter and gave her "her" Valentine's Day gift.

If I count right, that's her 20th Valentine's gift from me.

Her mom certainly didn't get that many gifts (not from me anyway)..... lol

 

It can be done. You just have to work things the correct way.

Even most "exes" have their daughter's best interest at heart.

 

This just sounds disturbing. Are you attracted to her or something?

[PinkInTheLimo]

This just sounds disturbing. Are you attracted to her or something?

 

I do in any case feel that you kind of use the child to get back at the mother.

 

Back off, that's the respectful thing to do.

[Rainbowlove]

Her birthday is this week and I want to deliver the little girl flowers and one of her favorite doll. All of it will be anonymous.

 

I don't understand the idea of sending it anonymously. The reason for sending a gift is for the little girl to know you care about her and you are thinking of her on her special day.

 

What happens when/if you get a family of your own? Will you disappear?

 

She has parents who are involved in her life and who love her. She will be okay.

 

Unfortunately, the decision is not yours to make, it's her mother's decision. If your relationship with her mother is not friendly, you must walk away.

 

Sorry.

 

Edit: Seems to have worked out okay. Keep the lines of communication open. If the mom is cool with it, that's all that matters.

Edited February 12, 2015 by Rainbowlove
didn't see your update...gift accept. Seems okay.