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Ive been talking to this guy online for the last month...he works away and we have started texting almost every day hes been dragging his feet though and we still havent hungout....at all.... weve sent eachother messages and pictures but everytime it comes to hangout he seems to have something happen....its pink eye or now his sister tried to kill herself ..I mean its serious and sad if its true...but I am just getting impatient and he doesnt seem to be the initiator. I dont think he took me serious. He said his sister is the most important girl in his life until a woman proves him wrong I guess hes been hurt in the past. I just got fedup today and I said I cant wait anymore....he said fine if u cant then dont..so I finally said dont text me anymore I dont wanna talk to you anymore...I just wanted to hurt his feelings like I feel hurt..

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Assuming for a minute that his sister did try to take her own life, her attempted suicide rocked him & his family to the core. They are in crisis & are literally fighting to save somebody's life & they are completely freaked out & feeling guilty because they didn't see this coming.

 

 

In the face of all that -- you, a stranger, -- are whining that he's not dumping his sister & abandoning his family to meet you. Really? I'd never talk to you again either because you have no empathy, or compassion.

 

 

The fact that you are also seeking revenge, hurting him because he hurt you, makes me question your level of maturity.

 

 

You had one move here: to offer him sympathy & say, take care of your sister, I'll be here when your life stabilizes. You did the opposite & made unreasonable demands he could not meet.

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Sorry but given what was said by the OP, the whole sister thing is probably made up. Even if it IS true, then this guy is not ready to date at all and the OP should move on. After a month of wild excuses I would just let this one go. Some people love to swim in drama. I wouldn't want to bring all that madness into my life.

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d0n makes a good point, if its true.

 

After a month with a reason every time not to meet up I agree its time to move on because whatever's going on with him isn't working into planning a date together.

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Thanks everyone for your input. Its just really convenient that each day weve planned to hangout there is some other outlandish thing thats happened. I told him I didnt appreciaye him dicking around. I realize suicide is serious....but I have been alm

ready waiting forever. ...and I dont even know if it's true with how he is. Eother way I think it was time to cut bait. His sister lives like 600 km away and he wanted to drive to go pick her ip....I told him he obviously has other issues going on in his life right now and I simply dont have any more patience that might make me a bad person...but I think ive aleeady heard enough out there excuses from him.

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Move on and look for another guy to date. This one isn't ready for you.

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If it's true, it's tragic. However, online when this happens, it's usually because they're a catfish who is lying about who they are and what they look like and/or what sex they are. Glad you cut him/her loose to deal with whatever problems there were.

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He was just a time waster. If you haven't met face to face by a certain point than you won't meet. He's just looking for a text buddy or to have his ego stroked despite what his reasons are/aren't for not seeing you.

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Whats done is done OP.. Regardless if that stuff really happened or not, could have just given him space for a while and moved onto other prospects.

 

 

Personally, I wouldn't waste my time with somebody that long regardless of reason.

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