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Planned an actual date, she happily agreed. Now didnt text back


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Hello LS, been hanging out with a girl since late November. At first, the hangouts were spread out(never used the word date on her). Lately we've been going out more and more. Shes also been texting me more often than not and sending me pictures of herself without me asking since I upped my flirt game. I am starting to really like her, we always have a great time when we go out.

 

So this past Friday, I actually told her "I would really like to take you out for sushi" and she replied back "its a date :)" and I told her it indeed is and she got really happy. I told her I was going to find a good spot and we can try and find time this coming week(we have conflicting schedules). The next day, she told me if I was free on Mondays cause she wanted to take me to an amusement park(she works for one). I told her I work Mondays but could always take a day off. She said she would see which Mondays she can get me in and shed get back to me on that.

 

So we were texting like usual the other night and I ended the text with a question about a TV show. She has not yet responded at all. Which I find odd cause she would always respond to me or if she knocked out, would text me the following morning saying she was sorry she missed my text, etc.

 

Now I am wondering, what should I do? Wait another day and text her? Its been a full day without a peep from her. Am I over reacting?

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You are overreacting a little, since you have not gone on the date yet but you are right to be concerned since the pattern of your communication has changed. I'd give her another 24 hours then CALL not text to ask what's up & why she went silent. If you like the answer, then you can formalize the sushi date

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You are overreacting a little

 

Yeah, you should learn how to cut those texting conversations short in a nice way.. otherwise, you get into this cycle of dragging a conversation out until somebody has to quit, and somebody else feels bad.

 

Like you do.

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Yeah, you should learn how to cut those texting conversations short in a nice way.. otherwise, you get into this cycle of dragging a conversation out until somebody has to quit, and somebody else feels bad.

 

Like you do.

 

Yep. I've found if I see signs that the other person is drifting off I'll just leave them with the last word instead of trying to drag it on uncomfortably (hate when people do this to me)

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I understand what you both said above. Do you think I have a chance still? How did you handle that cycle? Text the person back after a few days?

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I don't text. I CALL. Try it.

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Don't follow up with another text. Give it another 24 hours. That should be enough time for her to contact you. If she doesn't, a quick courtesy call would be good. If she doesn't answer, the ball is in her court to get back to you. In a cool, sensible manner, you would have done enough to let her know you're still into her, and that the onus is on her to re-commence communication.

 

But more than likely, everything is fine and she's probably planning on texting you within the next 24 hours.

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We have always texted each other, there has never been any calls. Do you think it would be a creep move if I did? I know its sad but nowadays all people do is text. For one thing, I have had to do most of the initiation with this girl. There was even a time once where I didnt hear from her for a week. I gave in, initiated and she said "Whats up stranger?"

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Just wait a day. Usually when I chill out and stop contact, I will hear from them within the next day sometime. No one likes a nag.

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As of now it's been 2 days. Friends are saying I should just bite the bullet and initiate. But not to ask why she went silent.

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You need to pretend the "text that was left hanging" never happened. Seriously, wipe it from your brain.

 

First, pick a place and time you want to take her to sushi. Next, call her up, act calm and casual, and tell her you want to take her to {sushi place} on {day in the near future}.

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