jbear0111 Posted February 9, 2015 Posted February 9, 2015 4 months post bu of a 2.5 year relationship with a girl i thought was the one.Nc for over a month but still think of her and miss her every day.Bee seeing a therapist which is helping and ive read that its usually half the time of the relationship that takes to get over. Maybe im impatient but I dont want to have her constantly on my mind and stopping me from moving on which is what i feel. i still have her on this pedestal and remember the good times rather than the crap times of which there were many
UntilTheLastMoment Posted February 9, 2015 Posted February 9, 2015 Well my man, it's gonna take some time. You're never going to fully forget someone you loved. I'm 4 months out of a 1.5 year relationship and 3 months NC but I still think of her almost all the time. I wish I didn't but I can't help it. Be patient with yourself, don't beat yourself up, and don't set yourself a time limit. You'll be healed when you're healed. Good luck.
d0nnivain Posted February 9, 2015 Posted February 9, 2015 Everybody grieves & heals at a different pace but you have to be realistic. You aren't going to get over a 2.5 year relationship in a few weeks.
Kinetica84 Posted February 9, 2015 Posted February 9, 2015 4 months post BU, intamitant contact with ex due to sorting out bills and stuff. I was getting over the break up fine and 3 weeks ago found out she was cheating while with me. I had to start the healing process all over again. I have days I feel fine and days like today I am so angry I want to look her In the eye and confront her. Point is, what you're going through is normal and it will pass when it passes. I don't even want her back but still think about her and miss the security of that relationship.
Author jbear0111 Posted February 9, 2015 Author Posted February 9, 2015 Thanks for the replies and know its a process i need to go through.Have heard shes in another relationship whilst im still trying to move on.seems to be a pattern with her,moving on into a new relationship soon after leaving another. Kinetica84,think you're right about missing the security of the relationship even tho at times it wasnt a good one.
REDDHU Posted February 10, 2015 Posted February 10, 2015 11 months post BU of a 15 years relationship.I am 31 and she was my first love and the whole world.Never contacted her after she ended it,but I never go a day without thinking of her. You just can't forget the ones you once loved with all your heart,but you can finally get used to living your life without them.
Nolan 93 Posted February 10, 2015 Posted February 10, 2015 We won't forget as long as we still have feelings for our partner. It is sad how we shared a special bond with our exes just to have it broken and resort back to strangers. I still miss her everyday, but I know with everyday i miss her I will soon forget her one day.
mightycpa Posted February 10, 2015 Posted February 10, 2015 I will soon forget her one day. You'll never forget her, you'll just stop thinking about her. Big difference. 1
erklat Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 ive read that its usually half the time of the relationship that takes to get over. Yeah, well it took me 11 months for four months relationship just to stop having panic attacks and barely start functioning. Now I can't remember some names of her relatives, I can try hard to provoke a panic attack an fail at it, I have been in NC more than I can count and it has been 1.5yrs since we separated and I still think of her daily. The pain and the trauma have been contained, but don't think you'll wake up one day and she will be an amnesia to you. Doesn't work that way.
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