IMeMine Posted February 9, 2015 Posted February 9, 2015 (edited) So I messaged a girl online 2 weeks ago and after exchanging a few messages, I gave her my number, and we started texting. After 2 days or so I ask her out, but she seems more unavailable than me surprisingly, but we agree on a coffee date a few days down the line. On the day of the date, I confirm a few hours ahead of time and she confirms back. But 30 minutes before meeting up she cancels saying a family member is really sick. She had told me about this family member before I asked her out, so I said ok no problem, and rescheduled with her two days later. On the day of the second date, I text a few hours ahead of time to confirm...no response. 2 hours before the agreed-upon time I text again...no response. Then late at night she texts me back saying she's so sorry, how I'm probably mad at her, and that she's just so overwhelmed with taking care of this sick family member and never gets time for herself, but that she really wants to meet me to know me better, etc.. My response was that I understand and I hope things get better for her, and I left it at that, because I figured she's not interested and I got the hint. Yesterday evening she starts texting me again, and after some back and forth playful texting, she says something along the lines of "now I'm afraid of asking you to go on a date...". I asked why, and she said "IDK lol" and didn't say anything else, so I left it at that. I'm confused about exactly what's going on....??? I've been trying to keep the texting to a minimum because I prefer to meet a person before talking too much via texting. I'm not really interested in a texting-only relationship. Edited February 9, 2015 by IMeMine
smackie9 Posted February 9, 2015 Posted February 9, 2015 No one deserves to get 100% of your attention, unless they are consistent. Stop making provisions for someone like this, your time is valuable. You put it out there that you will leave it up to her to arrange the date, then leave it. Until then work on going out on dates with other women.
Dybbuk Posted February 9, 2015 Posted February 9, 2015 Sounds like she has other dudes she's meeting, and she shuffles her schedule around depending on what offers she has on the table. I doubt she's getting phone calls so last minute to help a sick family member, and if that is the case she shouldn't be focusing on getting dates at this time regardless. I actually took a dating break when I got hired in a new job because I honestly couldn't devote my time to going out on dates while I was stressed over something else. I'd go ahead and start messaging other women and keep your options open. While you're sitting here waiting on this girl to make up her mind, you could be missing an opportunity to connect with someone else.
Dallers Posted February 9, 2015 Posted February 9, 2015 She keeps texting because she knows you will keep replying. She is just feeding off your attention because she has no one else currently to interest her. Stop doing it to yourself and walk away you will never meet this girl all you are is attention on tap.
shinealight Posted February 9, 2015 Posted February 9, 2015 Right if someone flakes on you like that they are not worth your'e time. Ive dealt with this today and was so annoyed because I was waiting at costa for 3hrs. Find someone else who acutally will care. Hope it all goes well.
oberkeat Posted February 9, 2015 Posted February 9, 2015 So I messaged a girl online 2 weeks ago and after exchanging a few messages, I gave her my number, and we started texting. After 2 days or so I ask her out, but she seems more unavailable than me surprisingly, but we agree on a coffee date a few days down the line. On the day of the date, I confirm a few hours ahead of time and she confirms back. But 30 minutes before meeting up she cancels saying a family member is really sick. She had told me about this family member before I asked her out, so I said ok no problem, and rescheduled with her two days later. On the day of the second date, I text a few hours ahead of time to confirm...no response. 2 hours before the agreed-upon time I text again...no response. Then late at night she texts me back saying she's so sorry, how I'm probably mad at her, and that she's just so overwhelmed with taking care of this sick family member and never gets time for herself, but that she really wants to meet me to know me better, etc.. My response was that I understand and I hope things get better for her, and I left it at that, because I figured she's not interested and I got the hint. Yesterday evening she starts texting me again, and after some back and forth playful texting, she says something along the lines of "now I'm afraid of asking you to go on a date...". I asked why, and she said "IDK lol" and didn't say anything else, so I left it at that. I'm confused about exactly what's going on....??? She's wasting your time, that's what's going on. After that second no-show, you should have blocked/deleted her number from your phone. Walk away.
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