matt_1987 Posted February 9, 2015 Posted February 9, 2015 after seeing the light out of the tunnel after my last break-up and pining over my ex gf for over a year, I finally felt like moving on and dated some people. Tried online dating and also got a few numbers out of bar, clubs, uni etc. and I must say, while I had some decent amount of sex, I'm left constantly disappointed by the girls I actually feel attracted to. There have been so far at least 4 date in the last 4 months where after a good first date (maybe too good? at least on two occassions we kissed on a first date, and on one we had sex) and displaying the feeling that I wanted to see the other person again, she would constantly bail. I received all ranges of excuses: she was too busy, bad timing, no sense of humor (??)...you name it. They seem decent girls at first but as soon as I open up (after feeling chemistry), things seem to go well. Then, after the first date, they vanish. Me I just try to act naturally, I play no games as I hate them and I'm quite straightforward, sensitive and honest. A decent guy. Is it maybe because I'm looking in the wrong place (Tinder)? is dating in London that difficult? am I building it all up in my head? maybe I need some actual stability in my life before dating seriously, and not just out of loneliness? I can't help asking myself all these questions and feeling frustrated about this, sometimes even taking it personally, even though I know, rationally, I should not. But women have very much let me down recently and I can't seem to find what I am looking for: to love and to be loved. sometimes I think about giving up altogether, at least for a while. it turned out to be half a rant, half a request of advice, but thanks for reading
Omei Posted February 9, 2015 Posted February 9, 2015 I feel the same as you... I date, but people are just disappointing in general. I am finding men online are either really boring or they're great even amazing but over time you discover it was just a best foot forward to land you then there's no further effort. Or they're very depressed the majority of people in OLD seem to be very mentally unstable, and lacking in social skills, im afraid to re-try.
smackie9 Posted February 9, 2015 Posted February 9, 2015 Everyone knows Tender is mainly a hookup site. Try a site that is geared more towards who are looking for something more serious.
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