whatwhit Posted February 9, 2015 Posted February 9, 2015 Long story short. My ex and I moved super fast, dated 6 months, lived together, and whatnot. He broke up with me early last month. Kind of narcissistic and passive aggressive. Dragged out the break up for a month. Had a terrible argument/ he started to pull away. I decided to start NC. He texts me on Saturday which would've been day 7 of NC. He knew I was starting crossfit, so he texted me " started crossfit ". I was out and about he sees my snapchats so he saw I was out i didn't reply until 4 hours later. I wanted to be friendly I don't know because I have a big heart whatever. I replied, "oh yeah? Very cool! I love it and am already seeing results " he replies a little after "way to go!". I didn't reply back kind of a pointless conversation. I do want him back I have never had a connection with someone like him. He's the boy version of me and vice versa. I'm crushed but trying to be strong. Why did he reach out with a pointless text? I could've swore I'd never hear from him again. He bought me tickets to my favorite singer while we were together he mentioned maybe still going while broken up. Should I bring up going? Let him bring it up? Or just go NC still. Any opinions would be great. He hasn't texted since Sat makes me wonder why he did at all.
d0nnivain Posted February 9, 2015 Posted February 9, 2015 If you want to reconcile, you have to talk. Since you want it, you reach out. If you want to heal & get over him, stay NC Do not try to use NC to make him miss you & lure him back by playing the unavailable game.
dumbass2 Posted February 9, 2015 Posted February 9, 2015 Why did he say he broke up with you? "Kind of narcissistic and passive aggressive" Can you tolerate this type of behavior and be happy with him? This type of behavior usually doesn't change, so don't think you can fix him or that he will just change even if you tell him it is unacceptable.
Author whatwhit Posted February 9, 2015 Author Posted February 9, 2015 He didn't give me reasons he gave me complaints (my finances, sex etc etc) When he mentioned these things I didn't know that they were deal breakers, because he never made a big deal into it. He's divorced if that matters. I remember telling him you know what I noticed? You never said what you did to not make the relationship work. He said he didn't know of anything. I said, that is your first problem. Donovan what should I say? I mean past month I came off clingy, desperate, and crazy. Then I went no contact, but then he reached out. Shouldn't I give him space? And if not, what do I say to not make myself sound clingy, desperate, or crazy lol.
d0nnivain Posted February 9, 2015 Posted February 9, 2015 Donovan what should I say? I mean past month I came off clingy, desperate, and crazy. Then I went no contact, but then he reached out. Shouldn't I give him space? And if not, what do I say to not make myself sound clingy, desperate, or crazy lol. Say I am sorry I was clingy desperate & crazy but these past few days of not talking to you helped me to realize that I do care & want a relationship with you. Is there any hope?
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