Supernova31 Posted February 9, 2015 Posted February 9, 2015 Hi guys I just need some advice, I broken up with my wife 2 years ago and iv been divorced for about 8 months and I met this wonderful woman who iv been seeing for about a month now, but I'm not sure how to tell her about my past do I wait and say it to her in a conversation or do I just tell her outright as I don't want it to seem that I kept it for her if I wait?
Toodaloo Posted February 9, 2015 Posted February 9, 2015 Just tell her. As long as you are over it, it shouldn't be a problem. Its not as if you are admitting that you are a secret mass murderer or something. Sadly divorce is common these days so I doubt it will be a shock. 2
amaysngrace Posted February 9, 2015 Posted February 9, 2015 If you have kids then definitely tell her and if you don't just wait for the opportunity to present itself. You'll know when is the right time to bring it up. It's nothing to be ashamed of. We all make mistakes.
Author Supernova31 Posted February 9, 2015 Author Posted February 9, 2015 Just tell her. As long as you are over it, it shouldn't be a problem. Its not as if you are admitting that you are a secret mass murderer or something. Sadly divorce is common these days so I doubt it will be a shock. Hi, Luckily I had a clean break, no kids no mortgage ect and I'm well over it, She's coming over this weekend so ill tell her then 2
smackie9 Posted February 9, 2015 Posted February 9, 2015 You have been dating for a month and she has never asked? Usually during the first/second date you talk about career, how many kids, divorced, ever been married, etc.....you know to get to know one another. You are an adult, man up. If you have lied about it then you are not starting this relationship off right. Good communication is key .....don't start with bad habits already.
Toodaloo Posted February 9, 2015 Posted February 9, 2015 Hi, Luckily I had a clean break, no kids no mortgage ect and I'm well over it, She's coming over this weekend so ill tell her then Oh it will be fine. Don't worry about it. Just make it a passing thing that you thought she should know in case it ever comes up in conversation later on and you don't want any secrets from her then go back to enjoying your weekend. 1
Author Supernova31 Posted February 9, 2015 Author Posted February 9, 2015 You have been dating for a month and she has never asked? Usually during the first/second date you talk about career, how many kids, divorced, ever been married, etc.....you know to get to know one another. You are an adult, man up. If you have lied about it then you are not starting this relationship off right. Good communication is key .....don't start with bad habits already. Iv not lied about it iv not had the opportunity to tell her in passing conversation which is why I'm on here for some advice
Author Supernova31 Posted February 9, 2015 Author Posted February 9, 2015 Oh it will be fine. Don't worry about it. Just make it a passing thing that you thought she should know in case it ever comes up in conversation later on and you don't want any secrets from her then go back to enjoying your weekend. Thanks that sounds good to me:)
smackie9 Posted February 9, 2015 Posted February 9, 2015 Why do you have a problem with telling her? is she really young?
Author Supernova31 Posted February 9, 2015 Author Posted February 9, 2015 Why do you have a problem with telling her? is she really young? We're both 28 i got married when I was 24, although things diddnt work and some people have told me I was too young ect and maybe I was, but iv learned from my mistakes and it sounds stupid but iv come out of the other end more mature and a better person, Iv not been in this situation before and I just want to make sure I do it in the best way possible, I'm sure there will be no problem as she seems like a very mature woman and if for what ever reason she isn't ok with it then I'll know it just wasn't meant to be. 1
kendahke Posted February 9, 2015 Posted February 9, 2015 Hi guys I just need some advice, I broken up with my wife 2 years ago and iv been divorced for about 8 months and I met this wonderful woman who iv been seeing for about a month now, but I'm not sure how to tell her about my past do I wait and say it to her in a conversation or do I just tell her outright as I don't want it to seem that I kept it for her if I wait? Just tell her. I'm surprised she hasn't asked you about your marital status yet. It's one of the first questions I ask a guy. 2
smackie9 Posted February 9, 2015 Posted February 9, 2015 It's one of the first questions I ask a guy. Absolutely this^^^^^
carhill Posted February 9, 2015 Posted February 9, 2015 IMO, bring it up in conversation about relationships, e.g. 'how do you feel about xxxx?' Pro tip: Refrain from mentioning that you ever had any good times in your M. 2
Author Supernova31 Posted February 9, 2015 Author Posted February 9, 2015 IMO, bring it up in conversation about relationships, e.g. 'how do you feel about xxxx?' Pro tip: Refrain from mentioning that you ever had any good times in your M. To be honest I'm not sure why she hasn't asked but we're still getting to know each other I guess, and thanks for the tip I'll keep that in mind!!
Otter2569 Posted February 9, 2015 Posted February 9, 2015 I would be completely honest and tell her. I would also say that you wanted to tell her earlier but were afraid of what she would think but you dont want any secrets between you. When I was first divorced it took a while to where I didnt feel like a loser telling people. It was like admitting you were a failure. At some point you realize that almost everyone gets divorced and those that arent divorced wished they were. 1
coryreply Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 I'm praying for you bro. I'm sure everything will be fine. I look forward to hearing how things go this weekend.
Author Supernova31 Posted February 15, 2015 Author Posted February 15, 2015 Hi guys, Well I told her everything and she was completely fine with it:), im soo glad that's off my chest now!, I just wanted to say thanks for everyone's advice, it really helped me out. 1
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