rdet123 Posted February 9, 2015 Posted February 9, 2015 So me and this guy have been friends for a good 10 years. Went to high school together and were always friends, but it was never a buddy buddy type of guy girl friendship. I feel like there was always something extra going on there, but he always had a girlfriend and I was just too shy to show him my interest. Fast forward and now we are both 24 and single. I've had a couple serious relationships and so has he. We've always managed to keep in contact spiratically though throughout the years. Well I live about 4 hours away from our hometown now and I decided to text him last week and say I would like to see him when I come home this past weekend. He seemed excited and said it's been too long! Our original plan was to just go to his place and I was going to play guitar and show him a couple things because he said he has been wanting to take lessons. Well Saturday night I texted him telling him to come out to the bars in our hometown. There were some people from high school that we knew and I figured it would be cool to see him. He ended up calling me at the bar and saying he had work early in the morning, and proceeded to say that tomorrow his family is going out to eat for his brothers birthday. He invited me to come with them. I took this as a good sign because I never really talked to his family at all, so for him to want me to come with them I thought was a great sign of potential interest. We ended up going to dinner the next night and he paid for my meal and his. 120 dollars was the bill and I told him I could help and he said no. I took this as another great sign because he definitely didn't have to pay for my food, especially since it was that much money (we went to a fancy steak place). So we end up leaving the restaurant and drive back to his place. I play guitar for about 20 minutes and we just ended up talking for another 20 minutes or so about some of the people we went to school with and just how we can't believe how fast time has gone after high school. He had to get up at 5:30am for work the next day and he said he was about ready to hit the sack. I asked him if it was okay if I stayed because he lives about 40 minutes from my house and he said yes. We ended up going to his room and he gives me some of his clothes to wear and we were trying to watch Netflix but he couldn't get it to work so he ended up shutting the tv off. We talked for about and hour or more about life in general and dating. It was about 1am when we stopped talking and were trying to sleep. I told myself to make it known that I like him and try to get more affectionate with him, so I ended up kind of cuddling up to him in the bed. I rested my head on his shoulder for a while and tried to sleep. He didn't really flinch at all, and made no effort to progress anything. Granted it was late and we were basically done talking...but what guy doesn't progress something especially when the girl is clearly making it known it's okay to! Disclaimer: I was not looking for sex, but more so just wanted to make out with him to see if there was a spark or not after all these years of knowing each other. The next morning he was getting ready to leave and woke me up and said "(insert name) Thanks for hanging out with me. Am I going to get a hug before I leave?" I was half asleep in the bed and was like yes of course and so I put my arms out on the bed and came around to my side and gave me a hug. I told him if I don't leave tonight then I will text him and let him know and maybe we can hang out again before I go back. What do you guys think is he interested? Or am I just totally friend zoned and should just move on. Why didn't he make a move on me at all? Also should I text him and say I would like to see him again before I leave, or leave it up to him? It's one of those scenarios where you have that high school crush where you feel you both mutually liked each other but no one said anything, but now i'm curious and just want to know if this will be something that goes anywhere! Also want to add that he invited me to go with him to see this band in August with him which I took as a good sign. What do you guys think?
d0nnivain Posted February 9, 2015 Posted February 9, 2015 Since you kind of invited yourself to stay he might not be interested.
smackie9 Posted February 9, 2015 Posted February 9, 2015 Guys don't do well with subtle hints and crap......all it does is confuses them. So grow a set and tell him you have always liked him for a long time. Hold his hand and look into his eyes, and smile while you say it. 1
Author rdet123 Posted February 9, 2015 Author Posted February 9, 2015 I thought about that too! We have stayed at each others houses before though, especially in high school. He would stay at my house if it was too late to drive home. I honestly don't think he was expecting me to drive home last night because when he invited me to dinner he said that we were probably going to drink a lot of red wine and if I needed to stay. But, I figured I would ask anyways since I barely drank at all last night.
smackie9 Posted February 9, 2015 Posted February 9, 2015 You are not in high school anymore......this is the real deal. You really don't have anything to lose if you tell him, but you most certainly have a lot to gain.
Author rdet123 Posted February 9, 2015 Author Posted February 9, 2015 You are not in high school anymore......this is the real deal. You really don't have anything to lose if you tell him, but you most certainly have a lot to gain. What do you think I should say to him? Any tips/advice? I'm ready to get this out of the way and know if he likes me and we should pursue this, or if I should just move on
smackie9 Posted February 9, 2015 Posted February 9, 2015 What do you think I should say to him? Any tips/advice? I'm ready to get this out of the way and know if he likes me and we should pursue this, or if I should just move on Like I said already : tell him you have always liked him for a long time. Hold his hand and look into his eyes, and smile while you say it.
kendahke Posted February 9, 2015 Posted February 9, 2015 He does not sound like he's interested in you in that way. If he was, the opportunity was lying right next to him and he didn't take advantage of it. He probably didn't want to embarrass himself by trying something on you. He couldn't read your mind and if he could, you then are putting out mixed signals--you said you didn't want to have sex with him. To him, the fact that you two were good friends, he may not want to mess that up by allowing romantic feelings to enter into something he feels is working for him. If you like him as you say, then you need to speak up for yourself and quit trying to make him read your mind. You'll get a lot more factual information by asking him directly than by asking us to speculate.
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