jake2495 Posted February 9, 2015 Posted February 9, 2015 For me no contact did not work. my ex started to text me a couple of days after we broke up. its now been nearly a month and we are talking all the time and meeting up. ive stayed over and we cuddle and kiss. i tried the NC but she wanted to talk and try to get back together. No Contact is what you should aim for but every breakup is different and if you both want to talk then go for it. better to do it and then youll atleast know
Elle1975 Posted February 9, 2015 Posted February 9, 2015 Ah.. so you're over her? And not hoping for a reconciliation? And you will be totally cool when she dates someone else, and confides it in you? 1
Chi townD Posted February 9, 2015 Posted February 9, 2015 Hi Friend zone! You're looking dapper today! Dude, she's cooling her heels with you. But trust me, she's looking for your replacement. And once she finds her next victim to cuddle and kiss with, you'll be tossed to the curb. I hope I'm wrong, but there's a reason our Ex's are our Ex's. Talk to you again in a couple of months. 3
Light Breeze Posted February 9, 2015 Posted February 9, 2015 Again and again and again. No Contact is a tool for healing and moving on, it is NOT a technique you use to get your ex back. Sure, some reconcile but that's not the usual outcome. Again, No Contact is for healing and moving on. Please read the No Contact Guide. 3
dyna85 Posted February 9, 2015 Posted February 9, 2015 No contact post-BU always seems to work.... until it doesn't. In your case, it sounds like your ex had a change of heart. That's great and everything, but in cases where one party definitely wants out and the other person wants more than anything to stay together, keeping in contact can prolong the pain and is not recommended.
rollercoaster11 Posted February 9, 2015 Posted February 9, 2015 I truly wish that everything works out for u this time around. I always wondered do guys really feel sad whenever a relationship ends even if they are the dumpee because to me you all hardly show any emotion well at least my ex didn't when I let go. Anyway keep your guard up just a little but not too much because regardless u could have turn her away but u didn't so you shouldn't regret what u went back into with your eyes wide opened. Be blessed!
Light Breeze Posted February 9, 2015 Posted February 9, 2015 I truly wish that everything works out for u this time around. I always wondered do guys really feel sad whenever a relationship ends even if they are the dumpee because to me you all hardly show any emotion well at least my ex didn't when I let go. Anyway keep your guard up just a little but not too much because regardless u could have turn her away but u didn't so you shouldn't regret what u went back into with your eyes wide opened. Be blessed! Read around here. That will answer your question. 1
rollercoaster11 Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 Read around here. That will answer your question. I have been reading and there seem to be equally guys to girls that experience heartbreak.
mightycpa Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 I've tried it both ways. I think what it boils down to is how much you love the person that has left you. If you can stand to be around them, knowing fully well deep in your heart that nothing will change, then you don't love them as much as you think you do. But if you're truly broken up about it, then NC is actually much easier than seeing the ex. At least that's my experience.
flowergirl1980 Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 I was in the situation my ex broke up with me after 3 years but still wanted to see me and hang out and go to dinner and lunch and his apartment, but never tired anything physical (after we would hang out he would hug me and thank me for hanging out with him and say we should do it again soon and then he would hit me up to hang out again). after 2 months of this and my friends and family thinking I am crazy I text him to tell him it was too confusing to go on this way that I love him and because of this it's too hard and I need to try and move on and in order to do that we can't communicate or hang out anymore. never got a response to that message it's been 4 days so I am guessing he was just like OK peace out and doesn't really care. Sad truth they ended it so I don't think they care about much after that.
marimari Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 When my ex broke up with me after 3 years, he wanted to stay in touch and be friends. I didn't want that, I was hurt and didn't want to listen about his new girlfriend, and I would prolong the pain. I wanted to get over him. A year passed, and I didn't try to contact him, neither did he.
flowergirl1980 Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 When my ex broke up with me after 3 years, he wanted to stay in touch and be friends. I didn't want that, I was hurt and didn't want to listen about his new girlfriend, and I would prolong the pain. I wanted to get over him. A year passed, and I didn't try to contact him, neither did he. so when he wanted to stay in touch and hang out as friends you told him no and cut him off and then he never tried to contact you again?
marimari Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 so when he wanted to stay in touch and hang out as friends you told him no and cut him off and then he never tried to contact you again? Yes. He broke up with me over the phone, and I was pissed off. How can we be friends if you don't have the courage to come and talk to me. And I didn't want to be ''the girl just in case'', if he ever changes his mind. 1
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