whatnowforus Posted February 9, 2015 Posted February 9, 2015 Right ill firstly admit i dropped the ball first time round when living together, things where going great, got engaged moved in together then i did get lazy, still wanted batchelor life of just coming home from work and doing nothing and massivley dropped ball... Long story short we broke up, she text me this morning and we got to talking... She wants to give it a go again but... i have to move back out and get my own place until shes decided she feels ready to try again living together. This feels like a huge step back for me and even though i love her i feel it will look embarrising to friends and family that we're dating yet living apart again, i feel it probably wont work because ill constantly be annoyed that we want different things now and i liked living there, ill be annoyed that she wont let me live there and prove myself and just feel even though i love her that if i move out it'll probably be best to just save time and move on because cant see me being happy going back to own place and essentially 'dating' after we've already lived together and got engaged? Plus the fact i havent a clue how long it will be for, she may well change her mind after 2 good weeks again yet ill be lumbered with a flat costing me a fortune decorating and buying stuff for, for the sake of a few weeks yet minimum lease in 6 months? any ideas whats best? get hotel for a fortnight? bite bullet and get flat? what? dont want to rush her but also dont want to waste my life waiting
Author whatnowforus Posted February 9, 2015 Author Posted February 9, 2015 background story, her dad left when she was young, she has a 2 year old whos father left when he was just 2 weeks old. She is **** scared that ill leave her and i know she does things like silent treatment and things to control situations to get her way. Everytime we get to a point where its getting really serious she kind of backs off and says shes scared then makes excuses 'we wont be able to afford it' then we worked it out and we're better off finacially living together then it was 'yeah but when we have kids youll neglect my other son' again i said 'no i wouldnt ive bought him up since he was nearly 1 hes nearly 3 now i see him as mine'. Everytime we get close to being a proper family something scares her and... shes off. told her to take time told her to have a think what she wants and just wish she'd stop letting life and fear rule her.
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