WonderKid Posted February 9, 2015 Posted February 9, 2015 I met this woman 3 yrs ago on DateHookup. She was 19 and I was 22. We have known each other that long and we have talked and video chatted also. We have NEVER seen each other until two days ago. I got my new car and traveled 50-something miles to see her. She got a new car before I did; one that was able to travel long distances. When I asked her why she didn't come see me, she said that she 2nd guessed herself. She has always had confidence issues and her self-esteem is somewhat low. Us seeing each other for the first time was great. I liked her a lot in person. The thing is that she is super shy and introverted. Like, last night, I did all the talking. She barely had an input or questions of anything. It got to the point where I got annoyed and started speaking my mind upon it--this was during a video chat. Then she just went silent and hung up all of a sudden and then texted me saying that she was going to lay down and go to bed. I actually thought us meeting for the first time would make her way more open with me (and after 3 years of knowing each other) but I was wrong. Now I am being reminded of why I kept her just as a good friend. I am trying to work with her but I am growing doubtful that this'll work. She said that things can get better once we meet more in person. But after last night I am seriously doubting that.
guest569 Posted February 9, 2015 Posted February 9, 2015 Quit. She is quiet and introverted, you dont like it. Thats who she is and you shouldn't change her. 1
Author WonderKid Posted February 9, 2015 Author Posted February 9, 2015 I just want her to be more open with me. Voice her opinions or something. I did not think it ran this deep.
guest569 Posted February 9, 2015 Posted February 9, 2015 I hear you, after 3 years she should be able to open up a bit more. I'm painfully, painfully shy. But it doesn't seem like this is going to chNge. I think all you can do is hang back a bit, the worst thing you can do is pressure her into talking, or forcing conversation. It sounds like more than a bit of shyness or introversion. 1
Author WonderKid Posted February 9, 2015 Author Posted February 9, 2015 You're right on both accounts. When I looked down the line of things I said it looked like I was being a real jerk. And I wouldn't blame her for going AWOL like that. I'll continue to be her friend but as for dating I don't think I'll pursue. I think it'll lead to unhappiness afterwards.
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