SarahBear901 Posted February 9, 2015 Posted February 9, 2015 (edited) I have a dilemma. My situation has A LOT of details. I'm going to try and make this short and sweet though, so if you need more details in order to help me, let me know. Exboyfriend Eric is trying to come back in picture. We went on a few dates way back when & I never liked him. Later, we dated 8 months but I finally ended it because he was getting to be so hateful, I couldn't stand to be around him. Also he beat my self esteem down sometimes by saying how hot celebrities are, etc.) He knew I didn't like that, but still did it, along with other little things like giving me the "are you out of your mind?" look. My friends were under the assumption that I could do way better anyway, so he tried to beat me down to make me think I couldn't. Anyway, we fought. We didn't get along. But we LOVED each other. Our bad times were bad, but man..our good times were GOOD. 1 month after breaking up with him, he wanted me back. I still cared about him so said we could start off as friends and we would see what happened. We dated and went out for 2 months and he just stopped talking to me ?!? He had wanted to see a friend instead of me one night (despite the fact I'd barely seen him lately due to busy schedule) and I got mad about it and I don't think he liked it? Also, before anyone asks "are you sure he was with a male friend and not a female?" the answer is yes, because my best friend seen them out at restaurant together. Besides, trust has never been an issue with him. We have a lot of problems, but trust ain't one. So there I was. He'd begged me for another chance, promising me everything but the moon and the stars.. I agreed to try but take it slow & he up and stops talking to me. He just didn't message me the next day or call me? 5 months goes by...not a word (although he did like nearly everything I posted on fb....of course he likes other girls stuff too). Now, he is out of the blue talking to me again, and has been for 2 weeks. I know its coming...I know he will want me back...again. What do I do? I still have some feelings for him, however, I can't go through that again. He never cheated or hit me, but he brought me down. I fear that if he asks and I say No, he will never speak to me again. I don't think he will want to be "just friends." I'm so torn.....I don't want to burn any bridges in case maybe in 5 or 10 years we could get back together if we have both grown up a lot. So, finally ... the ball's in my court. He dropped me like a bad habit...now I'm working out, finishing up my college degree, got a new haircut (which he loves btw)...aaaand he wants me back. How convenient. What do I do people?? Help. I don't want him back right now but don't want to lose him for good.. But this would be our 3rd time dating .... sigh. There are so many reasons why it won't work (difference in beliefs, difference in almost every area)...but what if it does work?? hmm. Edited February 9, 2015 by SarahBear901
lovexocoach Posted February 10, 2015 Posted February 10, 2015 Time for you to look for a good man who will appreciate you, cherish you, and treat you the way you want to be treated. Doesn't sound like this is the case here.
Erised Posted February 10, 2015 Posted February 10, 2015 Seldom a good idea to go back to an ex one time; never a good idea to go back a second. There's a reason its an ex. Just say no.
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