bigtrouble Posted February 9, 2015 Posted February 9, 2015 48days after BU I was on FB chatting with friends... I saw a photo of her and her new SO... I felt a mix of very low emotions... I couldn't tell what it was... I stood up and wanted to cry... But no tears... I wanted to get angry... But nothing... My heart thumped a little bit... I thought it would be a panic attack... But it was just that... Nothing more... I thought I couldn't sleep... But I was able too... (full 8hours) I wanted to feel the pain... But nothing there... I tried to analyze it... but I did not over think... Did it only for a short while... It held little interest... The emotions I felt were so little... I miss the pain...
JollyDays Posted February 9, 2015 Posted February 9, 2015 48days after BU I was on FB chatting with friends... I saw a photo of her and her new SO... I felt a mix of very low emotions... I couldn't tell what it was... I stood up and wanted to cry... But no tears... I wanted to get angry... But nothing... My heart thumped a little bit... I thought it would be a panic attack... But it was just that... Nothing more... I thought I couldn't sleep... But I was able too... (full 8hours) I wanted to feel the pain... But nothing there... I tried to analyze it... but I did not over think... Did it only for a short while... It held little interest... The emotions I felt were so little... I miss the pain... The withdrawal symptoms have passed...the storm has moved on, and you are fully recovered. FORWARD!!
Author bigtrouble Posted February 9, 2015 Author Posted February 9, 2015 You feel a little like this? Wow, thanks I can actually appreciate music now... I don't get depressed, I don't have to pretend... The withdrawal symptoms have passed...the storm has moved on, and you are fully recovered. FORWARD!! Seems the worst of times have passed... All the advice here helped me a lot... And all the warm words and support... :laugh: 1
Itspointless Posted February 9, 2015 Posted February 9, 2015 You have reached this point and that is good but I do think that you are not recovered (not to talk you down). Two things, you probably have detoxed (the chemical attachment) and you have become used to the story. That does not mean that the emotions are dealt with, they are just harder to reach. It is important to deal with them. For me listening to music that I listened a lot when I felt bad, helps. Not so hard to do as some great songs have come out in that period, I just want to hear them. Also things in films that remind you in some way really can trigger those emotions. Trigger those mirror-neurons! 1
questionsforthenouns Posted February 9, 2015 Posted February 9, 2015 Watch that clip from the movie Swingers. They talk about the exact thing you are experiencing. 3
tikay00 Posted February 10, 2015 Posted February 10, 2015 Watch that clip from the movie Swingers. They talk about the exact thing you are experiencing. Mind = blown.....lol. That's probably exactly what OP's going through. And the way he describes why he misses the pain makes SO much sense.
Author bigtrouble Posted February 10, 2015 Author Posted February 10, 2015 You have reached this point and that is good but I do think that you are not recovered (not to talk you down). Two things, you probably have detoxed (the chemical attachment) and you have become used to the story. That does not mean that the emotions are dealt with, they are just harder to reach. It is important to deal with them. For me listening to music that I listened a lot when I felt bad, helps. Not so hard to do as some great songs have come out in that period, I just want to hear them. Also things in films that remind you in some way really can trigger those emotions. Trigger those mirror-neurons! It does feel good... And I appreciate all the help... and support I got from this forum... I genuinely believe they are here to help... I have no anger, bitterness, regret or remorse... I am in a better position... Love becomes a conscious choice... I am no longer an emotional wreck... I do know this is not the final point of healing... but it sure feels so good to be stepping in the right direction... Watch that clip from the movie Swingers. They talk about the exact thing you are experiencing. I seen the movie 2weeks post BU, it was a good watch... P.S. It does get better
MajorOak Posted February 10, 2015 Posted February 10, 2015 Yes BT I understand the thread title and what you are feeling, I'm in the same boat. As my pain slowly subsides I know its part of my healing process. Its quite sad for me also, as the pain is the last thing I felt my wife. Anyway enough of that BxxxSxxt, onwards and upwards old fella 1
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