prieto123 Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 Ex broke up with me a month ago. I had put in much more into the relationship than her. We did long distance for a while, and I always took more time off and spent more money visiting her. I did everything i could to support her during our most difficult times. She broke up with me during a very difficult time in my life. I wasn't emotionally ready, and I fell apart. I begged and pleaded, and struggled to maintain NC given that I needed her as a support system. She got so frustrated by me reaching out to her that finally said NO this past Friday after stringing me along for a while. I know I was supposed to maintain NC, but I just buckled with so much going on in my life. Still my fault. I guess what hurts the most is knowing that she's doing fine right now. She seems to be having so much fun with her friends and family. She's enjoying meeting new guys on Tinder and being sought after by co-workers. It seems to me that she got away "easy". I know NC is the only way to go from now. I just wish I could find a way to make her feel the pain more. She's good looking, and I'm sure she will easily find a new guy. It just hurts so much that I bore the brunt of the pain. Just goes to reaffirm the importance of NC.
marcelo.santos Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 thanks for sharing Bro My advice is to try to not wish her to suffer too as this "revenge" thoughts will make it more difficult for yourself to move on. She is feeling well as she knows that you are chasing her - your complete silence may or may not change the game from now. Anyway, Dont regreat in have break NC - its part of the game, now you have a completely new chance to make NC works from zero! NC NC NC! Hope you feel better each day from now!
Elle1975 Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 ahem.. bitter much? I mean.. I understand you're in pain, but the whole "I wish I could find a way to make her pay" is a bit creepy. The more you spend time "plotting", the slower your recovery will be. I totally understand that we all have had those thoughts at one point of another, and not just confined to romantic relationships, but this isn't a good thing for you to do. Spend your energy on something more positive.
Seeker12 Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 My friend dont you worry, youll come back stronger, dont think you are alone, i did exactly what you did. My ex was my support system, and when i got hit with my emotional breakdown she was logically the first one i turned to, it didnt work out obviously as she jumped the other way. One thing i recommend is NC, full and complete NC, not to hurt your ex, or make her feel bad, but to stop yourself doing stupid things and for you to begin healing, that is all. There is always a chance for your ex to come back, but you cant wait around hoping if and for her too. Plus, even though she seems shes having fun, she may not be, dont beat yourself up thinking why you are lagging behind in your recovery whilst she has beasted ahead, this may not be the case.
Jessie1231 Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 My ex broke up with me and I became angry and wanted to hurt him too. I actually did some things to hurt him, and I'm ashamed of myself for what I did. It was mean and horrible and immature and probably caused him a world of hurt. The only thing good that I gained from it is assuring that he will never come back for a second chance, and that is good because it was an unhealthy relationship that I didn't need. But looking back I should have been able to keep myself out of that relationship without trying to destroy the guy in the process.
Satu Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 I know NC is the only way to go from now. I just wish I could find a way to make her feel the pain more. She's good looking, and I'm sure she will easily find a new guy. It just hurts so much that I bore the brunt of the pain. Just goes to reaffirm the importance of NC. Your toxic thought processes are making you unhappy. Try thinking different thoughts.
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