vitian Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 So I was onto my 5th day on no contact having broken up from a long distant relationship (break up of circumstance not a lack of feelings) and I get an unexpected email from him requesting 'can you call me please, if you want' I'm thinking to myself, what an ass, if he really wanted to talk to me can't he call me himself? Or is this just a ploy to get my attention and to feed his male ego? I do admit I miss him terribly though, but I haven't bitten the bait Why are men so confusing? Is he regretting his decision to end things?:(
Elle1975 Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 Simple, reply "what do you want to talk about", or "why".
Author vitian Posted February 8, 2015 Author Posted February 8, 2015 and wtf is up with 'if you want to?'
d0nnivain Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 You said you broke up due to circumstances not lack of feelings. Odds are he still misses you too. E-mail may feel a bit less invasive then a call. Also it gives the writer a chance to weigh every word vs. the instant communication of a call. If you still can't overcome the circumstance which broke you apart & NC is helping you heal, write back: You know why we broke up. That hasn't changed. If we have any hope of staying apart & healing, we both need no contact so I am not going to call you & I would appreciate it if you didn't reach out for me either.
Elle1975 Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 and wtf is up with 'if you want to?' Well sometimes it is used as a way to ask something, rather than demand. "Please call me, if you want to" as opposed to just "call me".
Author vitian Posted February 8, 2015 Author Posted February 8, 2015 which also translates to...I want you to call me but I'm too proud to beg/look desperate....lol im actually going to wait awhile longer and then respond, thinking back to all those times I would call and he'd never return the calls.
d0nnivain Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 im actually going to wait awhile longer and then respond, thinking back to all those times I would call and he'd never return the calls. You're playing games.
Author vitian Posted February 8, 2015 Author Posted February 8, 2015 Im not, im gaining my self respect. in the few days I have gone no contact Ive realised how badly i was treated communication wise, and I'm not going to make it seem like I have no life and drop everything because he is feeling lonely and wants to talk to me....no way! he chose to break up with me, not the other way around, I tried to talk it through and he would not listen to me, so maybe he does deserve these 'mind games' if you can call it that, either way he will not get a response from me so easy. I miss him, but I am deeply hurt as well.
Elle1975 Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 I have to agree with Donnivain. Take a few hours, a day, if you want to, but if you intend on calling, no need to make him wait. Or don't call at all, ignore. After all you aren't obligated, since you're broken up.
Marco Valerio Posted February 9, 2015 Posted February 9, 2015 You should answer him: - If you have anything to say to me, is YOU who has to pick up the phone, if not, then don't bother me!!!
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