Three1 Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 (edited) Me and my ex (1 month since break up) aren't friends on Facebook or instagram or anything. We were broken up for about 3 weeks when i went to a party and took pictures with some girls (one was my previous ex, no feelings between us). Her sister posted the pictures and added my ex the same day so i know she saw them. I didnt ask her to add her nor did i want my ex to see the pictures but to my ex it obviously looks like i told my friend to post and add the pictures so my ex would see them to make her jealous even though its not what i wanted at all. I feel bad and didnt want to cause more hurt to my ex and know this looks bad for winning her back. She told me she wanted to be alone and i don't want to make it seem like I'm moving on or trying on purpose to make her jealous. Is this a huge mess up because how obvious it is? Edited February 8, 2015 by Three1
Ducktape Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 She told me she wanted to be alone and i don't want to make it seem like I'm moving on or trying on purpose to make her jealous. Is this a huge mess up because how obvious it is? The only mess up I see in that story is how you're concerned about a girl who wants nothing to do with you, and how you don't want her to think that you're moving on. 4
Author Three1 Posted February 8, 2015 Author Posted February 8, 2015 The only mess up I see in that story is how you're concerned about a girl who wants nothing to do with you, and how you don't want her to think that you're moving on. it looks childish
Satu Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 I'll say it again: She does not want to be with you. She is not your girlfriend. She is not your friend. She is not anything in relation to you. Its over. Accept, adapt, and move on. 4
Ducktape Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 it looks childish In the span of 1 month, you've created 10 threads about your breakup. What's childish is how you refuse to accept the reality. She doesn't care what you do. She doesn't care who you are with. She left you. Stop projecting your jealousy and insecurity about your newfound celibacy onto her. She doesn't feel the same way about you. 1
dyna85 Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 You need to stop analyzing how social media activity is affecting your ex. If necessary to get to that point, you might consider removing yourself from social media altogether. You can't prevent other people from posting pics and your ex possibly seeing them, so either deal with it without lamenting the possible implications, or leave the scene. The choice is yours. It's clear that you're really clinging onto your ex and this whole social media crap is not helping matters. 1
Author Three1 Posted February 8, 2015 Author Posted February 8, 2015 I'll say it again: She does not want to be with you. She is not your girlfriend. She is not your friend. She is not anything in relation to you. Its over. Accept, adapt, and move on. If I hurt her that caused the break up yea I'm worried if a post would hurt her more. If i hurt her and can take steps to show i wouldn't again thats what i want to do not say "oh well i hurt her, i lost her lets forget about her like she means nothing to me"
Elle1975 Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 Thing is, I don't think she cares. I too feel like you're projecting your feelings onto her. If I break up with someone, whatever the reason, they have a right at having a life. Now if you had dumped her and had posted a bunch of pics with the new girl a week after the break up, I could see where youd be coming from, but this is not the case. 1
Satu Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 If I hurt her that caused the break up yea I'm worried if a post would hurt her more. If i hurt her and can take steps to show i wouldn't again thats what i want to do not say "oh well i hurt her, i lost her lets forget about her like she means nothing to me" Refer to my previous.
Author Three1 Posted February 9, 2015 Author Posted February 9, 2015 Refer to my previous. I know your right I'm just all over the place about this and what to do. Im full on NC but in the back of my mind i want to try one last time and don't think i could fully move on before that. I could tell myself i did everything i could and she's not having it, that i said everything i could possibly say. It would bring myself closure that i can't get from her at this point.
Ducktape Posted February 9, 2015 Posted February 9, 2015 That "one last letter" feeling will never go away until you move on. You could write the most perfect letter, one week later you won't be satisfied anymore. Understand that you are a junkie who needs his fix. You'll never have closure that way. 2
Author Three1 Posted February 9, 2015 Author Posted February 9, 2015 That "one last letter" feeling will never go away until you move on. You could write the most perfect letter, one week later you won't be satisfied anymore. Understand that you are a junkie who needs his fix. You'll never have closure that way. i see what your saying, i never got to talk to her in person at all since everything happened though so the things I've been wanting to say haven't changed much.
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