snipit3172 Posted April 3, 2005 Share Posted April 3, 2005 its been over 6 1/2 months since my boyfriend called it off the first 4 months were really hard but i did as people said on here and tried getting on with my life by going out more and trying not to think of him all the time but this last 2 weeks my head is in bits again and cannot stop thoinking about him and feel like crying all thre time and im not sleeping again i thought i was finally getting over him and i was getting attention of someone else actually off another ex boyfrien who split up with me over 2 years ago who i am still good friends with and we had a bit of fun but my heart is not in it and thats not fair to string him along has anyone any advice as to why all of a suden im screwed up thanls in advance Link to post Share on other sites
greenhorn Posted April 3, 2005 Share Posted April 3, 2005 Hi there, It happens to everyone , there is always ups and downs in the breakup. You can never erase memories they will always come back but with the passage of days you get the strength to bear it. What is happening to you is painful but is quite natural and IMHO the best way to get out of a pain is to go through it. There are events which are bringing back the memories of him but try to keep yourself busy and all those things that you did initially and you would be fine. There is always spring after winter and so there will be good days. cheer up Link to post Share on other sites
Author snipit3172 Posted April 4, 2005 Author Share Posted April 4, 2005 thanks i think the reason this time its harder is cos he treated me better than i have ever been treated before in a relatoionship and he never did anything wrong so i cannot think of bad things he did to make me forget him Link to post Share on other sites
greenhorn Posted April 5, 2005 Share Posted April 5, 2005 I didn't mean bad things per se, but I want you to think of those reasons or cicumstances due to which you landed in this unfortunate condition.Atleast you might be able to console yourself and pull you back from the misery that you are having. The best thing is to occupy your mind with something else. Even after so many months you think that "God I am not going to see him again or talk to him again" will hurt, so the best way is not to think about it. Just feel the pinch and then do something else.But don't allow the pinch to grow. It happens with everyone. We all are human not robots who can be programmed to delete past with one stroke of Key. Cheers. Link to post Share on other sites
Marshbear Posted April 5, 2005 Share Posted April 5, 2005 It is natural for you to feel ok at times and then miss him all the more at others. I too was in a relationship with a woman for 2 years and I broke it off because I did not like the way things were progressing with us. It has been a year now since we broke up and I am now able to go on with my life without feeling regret or anger at her. In my case she was not worth my attention but that doesn't matter when you are involved. Time is the only healer and if you still cannot cope after a reasonable elapse of time you might need to talk to a professional for some help. Hang in there and your days of misery will be less and less... Link to post Share on other sites
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