Luna1 Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 I have a boyfriend of 2 years. He is cute and tall and lately received prominence and accolades for his look, after nearly 7 years of no recognition at his public job, The problem is that he acts single and pretends to be alone in public and to his female followers. He only posts his pictures on social sites and never mentions being in a relationship. He said he was married for two years in public which was a cheap joke by him, he played on his female followers. He went to Indonesia and told all the pretty anchors and hosts that he's single. He makes me take his photos and posts them on social sites and never posts our pictures on sites. He had 4 months of busy work and after that he took me to a heritage resort but as usual, I took some pictures of him which he posted and he posted some selfies. He told me he ll post our picture on Valentine's Day. He posts pictures with his friends but he never posts pictures with me. If he really loved me he wouldn't hide me like this. There is no such thing as privacy because if people start being private like this, all married/engaged people would claim they are unmarried! Why is he doing this? There are lots of men who are exceedingly handsome but don't hide their relationship. If they don't want to post much, they don't reveal many photos but at least they show 1 pic or at least say they are attached. For mere girls and fame, he will hide me like this and act single? Plus he loves female attention and flirts too. Why is he doing this? he's 33 years old.
Derek79 Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 You chose him for superficial reasons. I don't understand how women choose men. I don't understand why you've dated him for 2 years. 2
umirano Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 When I was crazy in love with a girl her pictures and our pictures would be all over the place, for everyone to see. Next time that may not happen again, because it's kind of silly to make your new found love life an act of state. But it's a little odd that there's not a single picture with you when he's all about putting up pictures about himself or his life. 1
Gaeta Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 I have a boyfriend of 2 years. He is cute and tall and lately received prominence and accolades for his look, . Interesting those are the first words you chose to share about your boyfriend. I would understand not wanting to display a new relationship but after 2 years it's unacceptable. Honestly I don't know how you endured this for 2 years. It's time for you to move on to something better.
veggirl Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 He's an ass and he's probably cheated a few times, at least. WHO in the world would date someone for TWO YEARS as a secret gf??? what is wrong with you....? how disrespectful...I cant even fathom putting up w/ that for 2 months much less 2 years. Obviously you are never marrying him. men don't marry their secrets, I mean would the wedding be a secret too? move on!!
bathtub-row Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 He does this because he's not done with playing the field and because he doesn't believe you're the one. It doesn't matter how tall or good-looking he is, it doesn't excuse his dismissive behavior toward you.
kendahke Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 I have a boyfriend of 2 years. He is cute and tall and lately received prominence and accolades for his look, after nearly 7 years of no recognition at his public job, The problem is that he acts single and pretends to be alone in public and to his female followers. He only posts his pictures on social sites and never mentions being in a relationship. He said he was married for two years in public which was a cheap joke by him, he played on his female followers. He went to Indonesia and told all the pretty anchors and hosts that he's single. He makes me take his photos and posts them on social sites and never posts our pictures on sites. He had 4 months of busy work and after that he took me to a heritage resort but as usual, I took some pictures of him which he posted and he posted some selfies. He told me he ll post our picture on Valentine's Day. He posts pictures with his friends but he never posts pictures with me. If he really loved me he wouldn't hide me like this. There is no such thing as privacy because if people start being private like this, all married/engaged people would claim they are unmarried! Why is he doing this? He's doing it because he wants to do it. Really. It's that simple. If he didn't want to do it (like he doesn't want to acknowledge you in public), then he won't do it. There are lots of men who are exceedingly handsome but don't hide their relationship. If they don't want to post much, they don't reveal many photos but at least they show 1 pic or at least say they are attached. For mere girls and fame, he will hide me like this and act single? Plus he loves female attention and flirts too. Why is he doing this? he's 33 years old. I have to agree that you're a bit too hung up on looks and not nearly concerned enough with substance... and that is why this clown in is your life. If you had a man who was thick on the substance and light on the looks, you probably wouldn't be having this issue in your relationship. As I said above, he is doing this because he wants to do it and because you allow it by sticking around, hoping for something he's not going to give you. It's about time you figured this out and bounced. 2 years of your youth wasted behind someone who is not done playing the field just because he's good looking and you want an ornament on your arm. Go find a guy who isn't handsome, but is honorable, loving, kind, respectful and will treat you as if the sun and moon rose and set on your command.
The Mighty Quinn Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 Dump him ASAP .... like right now..like today....like 5 minutes ago...like two years ago. Dump him. He is not a good man to you. This is the farthest thing from a healthy relationship. You deserve more then this! Let me repeat it, YOU DESERVE MORE THEN THIS. Go find a mirror and look yourself in the ye and repeat that over and over again.
irresolute Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 You accepting this situation makes you the best doormat ever. Two years is a long time so you might be enjoying being treated like nothing. What do you want us to say?
The Mighty Quinn Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 I think she was looking for help. Not someone to shame her choices. All of us have made poor relationship choices, all of us have things to learn in this life time and not all of us have learned the same lessons. Which is great that other people can help us learn the lessons we haven't yet.
mortensorchid Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 You've been with this guy for 2 YEARS and he won't acknowledge that you two are in a relationship?! That's crazy. Your answer is beyond some PR stunt, because women will go after a man who is married or with someone otherwise anyway. If he is truly a celebrity of sorts like you say, then you have to ask yourself what it is that this does for you other than bring you a sense of celebrity by being by his side. Otherwise I don't think it's unreasonable to tell him that at this point you want some sort of public acknowledgement on his part. You can't not leave the house forever. 1
Author Luna1 Posted February 9, 2015 Author Posted February 9, 2015 When we were only 4 months into our relationship, he did not say anything to his followers, then as well.
veggirl Posted February 9, 2015 Posted February 9, 2015 When we were only 4 months into our relationship, he did not say anything to his followers, then as well. So your plan is just to carry on as is? Do you realize how pathetic that is...? How pathetic it is to sit around counting down to promises of your "boyfriend" posting a pic of you on FB? Like that is some kind of accomplishment? What do your family and friends think of the fact that your "boyfriend" won't acknowledge you? Does this mean you don't get invited out socially with him? 1
kendahke Posted February 9, 2015 Posted February 9, 2015 I think she was looking for help. Not someone to shame her choices. All of us have made poor relationship choices, all of us have things to learn in this life time and not all of us have learned the same lessons. Which is great that other people can help us learn the lessons we haven't yet. one has to want to learn the lesson. Sadly, many people are seeking validation for the path they're insisting upon staying on, not wanting to take advice and learn from others. 2 years IS a long time to be treated like that, in the hopes that they can make a meal on some crumbs to be thrown their way at the end of this week. One day isn't going to make up for the rest of the 364 when he goes back to doing what he wants to do even though she's in his life.
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