Should I give my ex his birthday present that I already bought him

[Crafty]

So i was on and off (sort of) with this guy. He was my first real boyfriend i guess and i'm sure i loved him, however, as time went on i realized we just weren't compatible. His idea of how to treat a girlfriend or someone he supposedly loved was vastly different to my idea and i wasn't getting what i needed from a relationship. Last time we dated was technically a while ago like a year ago, however from august-december last year, we were texting every day and seeing each other on the weekend. I thought we were heading into dating officially again but we kind of agreed to wait until after exams. exams came and went and i was still waiting for this thing we had going on to move forward, for him to prove to me he was genuine. Then in december, we had another argument cause still things were the same, came to a boiling point awkwardly the day before his birthday. On his birthday we went to dinner with him and his friend as planned and drunkenly discussed our issues, he kept telling me i had to be patient and the problems now would no longer be problems in 2months time.

 

Anyway, just days after his birthday, i met a guy and we hit it off straight away. me and this new guy are now in a relationship and im very happy with him, he treats me amazing, he's very attractive, common interests etc etc and issues in the last relationship are not issues in this one. Told the ex soon after i met the guy that im pursuing this new relationship.

 

Now, prior to all the fighting with ex, i already bought him his birthday present cause it was his 21st. i didnt bring it on the night of his birthday and he said hed get it from me later. i told him what i got him though on his birthday cause he asked what it was. anyway, part of the present was for us to go sports car racing cause i got a good deal on it. We've communicated around christmas time and new years and i asked him if he still wants to get his gift and go racing he can he just has to let me know of day when hes free. but he still hasnt messaged me a day (i presume from past experience with us being on and off, he gets nervous to message knowing i have a new bf but in the past he's always reignited communication) and it expires soon lol.

 

Do i message my ex and still give him his gift plus the deal of us going sports car racing or do i use the voucher myself and donate the other gift? option 3 would be to treat my current boyfriend with the gift, however he's on crutches currently and cant drive as such. I still care for my ex and bought him his present prior to the fighting and it was well thought out and would still like for him to receive it. Is that weird?

 

We're on good terms i guess, havent spoken a great deal since his birthday and i guess me finding someone new was unexpected. it feels weird to suddenly cease communication with him and i want to talk to him as a friend but i cant seem to find the courage to talk to him, like i think what will he think, will it look desperate if i talk to him etc etc.

 

we're 21.

[Maleficent]

No.

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[Satu]

No.

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[Art_Critic]

ahhhh...No....

 

First off you have a new BF..

 

Either give them away, sell them or use them but don't give them to your ex, if you do it will show you still have feelings for your ex and if I were your BF and you did that I would break up with you...

[Toodaloo]

Use the contact number on the voucher, explain that you can't come yet as the person you wanted to bring is on crutches and can you book a date after he can walk again please. Then take your new beau and have a lovely time.

 

I don't know what the other thing was but see if you can return it and get your money back or bung it on ebay.

[stillafool]

Heck NO! If you want to give him the tickets to go racing with one of his friends that is one thing, but you going with him is totally inappropriate. You have a bf and shouldn't be spending time with your ex. Absolutely NOT!

[stillafool]

in 2months time.

 

it feels weird to suddenly cease communication with him and i want to talk to him as a friend but i cant seem to find the courage to talk to him, like i think what will he think, will it look desperate if i talk to him etc etc.

 

we're 21.

 

When you are in a relationship it is normal and expected that you cease all communication with your ex. You cannot be his friend so do not try. He is moving on with his life as you have and you should be respectful of your new relationship and leave your ex alone.

[stellamaria]

Absolutely not and no way, in that order.

 

You offered to give him his gift and he couldn't even respond with a day. It's insane. He cannot treat you with such a lack of respect.