whattodo111 Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 So I dated this guy for two months. We saw each other about 3-4x a week, sometimes twice a day. I really was starting to fall for him. About 6 weeks in he said he was starting to have feelings for me, but he still had feelings for his ex. At that point is was too late. I already really liked the guy. Why does there always have to be a problem,. I'm tired of every man I date having some sort of reason for being unavailable. Deep down I knew I should have moved on at that point, but I stuck around for another two weeks. Then he just vanished on me. Not even a goodbye....nothing. I sent a text one day and was just simply ignored. This was three weeks ago now. I haven't reached out since I was ignored. I am trying to move on, but i still can't believe he went out that way. I didn't expect it. It still bothers me, and I still feel so badly about how it ended. Sometimes I still want to tell him off, but what is the point. I felt I at least deserved an I went back to my ex....or whatever..... I am really want to move on from this, but I'm having such a hard time. :-(
Jessie1231 Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 My last relationship was fairly short like yours, but I was absolutely crazy about the guy. He would have just disappeared too had I not turned into a total psycho and demanded some sort of reaction. Be glad you didn't stoop to that level - it is embarrassing. For me, I was heartbroken, depressed, angry, and preoccupied for about a month to a month and a half. I would cry and get angry. I would think of nothing but him. I only contacted him twice during that time (both ignored), but I constantly checked his Twitter. Then finally one day I was able to figure out through some vague post he made where he was and that he had a woman with him. For some reason this was a turning point for me. I realized then that I wasn't sad that he was with someone besides me, I was sad because he was on another trip with someone when I was supposed to go on that trip. He and I took some really fun trips, and apparently that was all I missed about him anymore. My point is that somewhere along the way of getting over him, I changed from feeling that I cared about him to someone addicted to this idea of a relationship. Neither feeling is healthy, but because of being addicted to him I was hung up on him for much longer than I should have been. I was past whatever feelings I had for him and wasn't able to see that. Definitely stick with no contact, and avoid all social media!! It is the worst and if you're anything like me you'll constantly check it for some clue about what's happening now. You'll have a day or half a day where you feel ok again, and that will be the sign you need to know that you'll be back to normal one day. It absolutely sucks at first, but it does make you stronger and wiser. And read these boards whenever you're feeling bad. You'll see that there are a ton of people going through the same thing and that always made me feel kind of normal. Good luck.
Author whattodo111 Posted February 8, 2015 Author Posted February 8, 2015 Thanks Jesse. That was helpful. I appreciate it :-) I just wasn't expecting to be suddenly ignored. I think that is a major thing I can't get past. It's hard to push forward and open yourself up to other people when stuff like this happens, and somehow they feel it is acceptable to end things in such a way?
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