Jl321 Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 My ex broke up with me before New Years and said she was doing this for us. She went to her home country and I asked her to text me when she got back but she never replied. She said she'd be gone for a couple weeks but ended up staying for a month. I knew she got back through social media so that's when I felt most sure she wasn't gonna bother so I started to really move on with no hope. A couple days ago I finally got the courage to delete her number, block her from everything, and put all our pictures and all that in bag and hidden somewhere. Well she emailed me today and I haven't even read it. It's titled "I didn't forget." I glanced at it in awe for a good minute. My cousin was talking to me and I couldn't even pay attention. Really weird experience. I don't know if I want to read it. Of course I still miss her and want her but she hurt me bad. I was starting to feel better already.
Light Breeze Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 Well, it really depends on what you want right now. Do you want to move on or are you still amenable with the "can we try again" speech/letter? 1
lolablue17 Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 Her Email is just for one purpose - To prevent you from moving on. It is no coincidence for her to send the Email just few days after you blocked her. She found out you blocked her, and she didn't call you, she didn't want to meet, she didn't visit. She did the minimum technically physically possible with zero effort from her side, to ruin your healing and to damage your moving on. If she could write "I didn't" without typing the word "forget" she would have done that, but then it wouldn't effect you, so she had to make a big effort typing another six letter and a space bar to add the "forget". WOW! That should show you how stupid and a doormat she thinks you are. Ignore it! Never take this bitch back. 2
Author Jl321 Posted February 8, 2015 Author Posted February 8, 2015 Guys, I'm so ****ing lost right now. I didn't cry throughout the whole month of NC. I'm so confused that I don't know what to do but cry. She sent me an email of a journal that she had been keeping while on her trip. She wrote it as if she was actually talking to me. 10 pages in total. She constantly told me how much she missed me, loved me, and how hard it is for her. She says that she's thinking about me everyday and tells me she loves me. She calls me pet names and explains her trip and how she talked about me to her family. Her 2 last paragraphs say about how much she loves me and cares for me. How she'll always be there for me and she knows how much I can accomplish in life. She told me she wanted me to be happy. We broke up because we spent too much time together and it was unhealthy. But she said she was doing this for us. I don't know what to do. I want her to know that I'm doing everything I can to better myself and be a better man. Not just for her but for my own happiness. I don't know what to do. At this point I don't need her but I do want her. It's clear she wants me. We just didn't know how to have a healthy relationship I guess. Please guide me. I'm lost.
Elle1975 Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 To me it's just a nice pet talk, but nothing more. She doesn't say "I want to be back with you", instead she serves you with the generic "I'll always care for you", "I hope you will be happy" bs lines. 1
lolablue17 Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 If it's not only a short message, but 10 pages, I don't think you should or want to ignore that. It's also not polite to ignore her on these circumstances. But you can send her a mail, honestly Telling her that you are getting better for yourself, not for her. She's the one who ended it, and it's not fair by her side to send you those emotional words, who just delay your moving on process. Tell her that if she wants you back, you're willing to consider that and meet and talk to her about that, but please don't send me meaningless emotional stuff anymore, unless you mean something, and if you do, tell me directly without any hints or symbols. 2
Ajax Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 We broke up because we spent too much time together and it was unhealthy. But she said she was doing this for us. I don't know what to do. I want her to know that I'm doing everything I can to better myself and be a better man. Not just for her but for my own happiness. I don't know what to do. At this point I don't need her but I do want her. It's clear she wants me. We just didn't know how to have a healthy relationship I guess. Please guide me. I'm lost. Clearly, the path to a healthier relationship is to go from spending "too much" time together to none. She's just blowing smoke. 2
dyna85 Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 I'm with Ajax & Elle. What is the purpose of this letter? Seems like she's trying to keep herself front and center in your mind. She ignores you and you start to move on and then bam, she swoops back into the picture. You're lost because she's causing confusion. Her 2 last paragraphs say about how much she loves me and cares for me. How she'll always be there for me and she knows how much I can accomplish in life. She told me she wanted me to be happy. You don't need her pity or her support. She chose to leave, so she should live and let live at this point, rather than act like you need her strength to carry on--which you don't. 2
Ajax Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 (edited) Needless to say, don't reply. Edited February 8, 2015 by Ajax 1
SycamoreCircle Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 Yeah, she needed some time apart to get with [insert cute guy's name she met on Facebook who will be traveling the same time as her]. 2
EgoJoe Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 And in been torrid fornication sessions she wrote about some guy she missed... Now she claims it's you. Ignore, delete, block and move on. Find an emotionally mature Woman. It's our duty as Men to stop putting up with this crap from unstable females who want to define reality through the lens of subjective emotions they don't even understand. NEXT!
Satu Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 She sent you lots of sweet words. Is that what you want? Words?
SycamoreCircle Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 Rule: If a woman in a relationship starts having "personal problems", becomes cold, disengages and breaks up, there is another guy.
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