Phyre Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 Hello. I've been reading this board for a little while but this is my first time posting. I've been seeing a friend from work for 3 months now. Everything's been great up to this point ...wish we could see each other more than once a week but our schedules prevent that. He's already said he hates phones and texting but it's the only option for communication during the week. Our shifts overlap so he's coming into work a little before I leave for the day. We usually banter back and forth but the last 4 days, he's been oddly quiet and subdued around me. As I said, everything's been great, no cause for alarm or any indication that something might be wrong. I finally broke down and texted him last night (1 text), simply asking if everything is ok. He responded 14 hours later, saying that he is "going through personal issues right now...can't talk about it". I should also mention that his schedule is weird in that he sleeps very poorly and keeps weird sleeping hours so 14 hours for a text doesn't strike me as odd. I sent him a text a few hours later after deliberating on what I should say-"Well, I hope everything works out for you and I'm here if you need someone to talk to". I didn't hear back so 5 hours after that text, I tried to call him...went straight to voice mail (not sure if that's normal since the phone chats rarely happen). I left a voice mail just saying that I hope he's ok. I have been crying since Wednesday because I don't know what's going on. My friends have said he seemed like a very direct guy so I'm keeping my fingers crossed that this is not him wimping out on breaking up with me (because he has NEVER indicated that he had any issues with me). I'm trying hard not to be a fool but I am trying to remain positive. To the good people of LS, what does this sound like to you?
preraph Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 He's told you he doesn't like texts or phones. He's told you he can't talk about it. Why are you continuing to bug him??? He's being very direct that he doesn't want to talk right now or text and phone regularly.
Honeybunnies Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 To the good people of LS, what does this sound like to you? It sounds like he needs space and doesn't want to talk about it. After only three months, why are you assuming that his personal issue is about you? 1
travelbug1996 Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 maybe it was just sex for him and he may be on to someone new.
Author Phyre Posted February 8, 2015 Author Posted February 8, 2015 He's told you he doesn't like texts or phones. He's told you he can't talk about it. Why are you continuing to bug him??? He's being very direct that he doesn't want to talk right now or text and phone regularly. He has told me he doesn't like phones/texting but ... funny little story about that. I was at his place one night and his phone kept going off He kept looking at it in disgust so I laughed and said "Oh, so that's how you react to texts". Then, I asked him if he minded me sending him the occasional text and he laughed, saying "No, you're fine" but I did ask that if it ever bugged him to PLEASE let me know immediately. Honestly, I don't see how 2 texts and 1 voicemail in 4 days is all that bad...wanted him to know that I'm there for him.
Author Phyre Posted February 8, 2015 Author Posted February 8, 2015 It sounds like he needs space and doesn't want to talk about it. After only three months, why are you assuming that his personal issue is about you? Because we were friends for a year before we moved on to this ... but you're right. I'm just confused because this seems so sudden and unlike him. Thank you, though ... until I know differently, I'll assume he's just going through something that he doesn't want to dump on me.
Author Phyre Posted February 8, 2015 Author Posted February 8, 2015 maybe it was just sex for him and he may be on to someone new. I've considered this, too ... and maybe I'm being naive but his last girlfriend cheated on him so I would like to think he wouldn't do that to someone else.
beach Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 I've considered this, too ... and maybe I'm being naive but his last girlfriend cheated on him so I would like to think he wouldn't do that to someone else. How long since he stopped dating her? Maybe that was her blowing up his phone? Did he tell you who was communicating with him?
Author Phyre Posted February 9, 2015 Author Posted February 9, 2015 How long since he stopped dating her? Maybe that was her blowing up his phone? Did he tell you who was communicating with him? They broke up back in late summer. It was a couple of his friends in group text talking between themselves so that may have been part of his issue with that.
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