mrallen Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 (edited) A woman I work with has been displaying some odd signs around me lately. I'm curious if these are signs that she is attracted to me. First, she keeps looking at me out of the corner of her eye. I've noticed her doing this across the room and also when I walk past her or sit next to her at lunch. I catch her doing it a least once or twice a day but usually over five times and sometimes as many as 10+ times a day. She and I used to make eye contact occasionally across the room but we would both quickly look away. Lately it seems like she purposely tries to avoid this shared eye contact and only looks towards me on the stealth. The next major sign she displays is playing with her hair when I'm around her. She does it occasionally when I'm not around but does it a lot when I'm talking to her or am nearby. We eat lunch together at our assigned time along with another woman and sit next to each other (lunch area is tiny though - only 3 seats). During lunch she runs her hand through her hair nonstop it seems on some days. I can understand messing with it on occasion but not as much as she does in our 30 min lunchtime. Also at lunch she almost always sits back in her chair with one leg crossed over the other thigh (usually towards me but sometimes away) and slowly bobs her foot. She also slowly rotates her ankle around a lot. A few other odd things I've noticed she does occasionally when I'm around is blush, play with her necklace, suck her lips in, and play with her neck and ear Getting a read on her is so tough because she is such a dainty and private person who is very introverted. Doing some research online I've learned that many of these habits are signs of attraction. However, many are signs of nervousness or anxiety too. I've considered asking her about why she's doing these things (especially the sneaking glances). The problem with that is she is not my type of person for a relationship - even though I do find her to be very attractive. But she is a friendly person and an excellent coworker who I don't want to make uncomfortable. I've never posted anything on this site but have found the advice given by people here to be very informative and insightful. That is why I decided to turn to you for help. Is this woman secretly attracted to me or do I make her uneasy. Any opinions would be greatly appreciated. Edited February 8, 2015 by mrallen
Larry56 Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 Oh god this is painful. Yes she's a attracted to you "now" but if you don't make a move soon enough she'll get bored and move on to someone else who is assertive enough to ask her out. 1
Larry56 Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 Sorry to be harsh but you really gotta DO something before it's too late. Why would she be nervous around you if she wasn't attracted to you?
callingyouuu Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 Why would she be nervous around you if she wasn't attracted to you? Yeah, especially around more introverted girls in my experience, a bit of anxiety often comes with attraction. Talk with her for a bit, get to a point where she's a bit more comfortable around you, and then ask her out!
Noproblem Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 All of the signs you mentioned does not prove this girl like you. Except for the glances. I bet your read this website! Read Her Signs (Without Reading the Tea Leaves) But guess what these signs prove? They only prove that you really like her and follow her every move I mean yeah she likes you! But you like her better, you just don't know it yet! But yeah keep on ignoring her, slowly breaking her hopes and heart (even though you are not together, she's still gonna be sad by your indifference) and 5 months from now, do come here and say oh I was too hesitant and lost a great girl!
Author mrallen Posted February 8, 2015 Author Posted February 8, 2015 The reason I think she may be nervous instead of attracted is because of the way she has become less direct in looking at me. The corner of the eye looks almost remind me of the way you look at a stranger who is standing next to you who makes you feel uncomfortable. I know she is doing this on the sly and I'm not suppose to notice it but it just makes me wonder if she's thinking, "here comes that creepy dude who is always checking ME out, I better be aware of what he's up to." When Im walking by her she should just turn and look at me for a second and smile. Instead she does the corner of the eye thing alot or even kind of ignores me on purpose I think.
preraph Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 I would just point out that for you to know she's glancing at you, you must be staring at her, and I'm 100% certain this has not escaped her. You're probably making her self-conscious, hence the nervous gestures and looking away. If you have sat by her at lunch before, why on earth didn't you talk to her? That's the ONLY way to find out if she likes you on any level. 1
Noproblem Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 The reason I think she may be nervous instead of attracted is because of the way she has become less direct in looking at me. The corner of the eye looks almost remind me of the way you look at a stranger who is standing next to you who makes you feel uncomfortable. I know she is doing this on the sly and I'm not suppose to notice it but it just makes me wonder if she's thinking, "here comes that creepy dude who is always checking ME out, I better be aware of what he's up to." When Im walking by her she should just turn and look at me for a second and smile. Instead she does the corner of the eye thing alot or even kind of ignores me on purpose I think. The guy I like so much I don't even look at him -_-
irresolute Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 Omg, you know the answer so I guess you're looking for reassurance here. Yes, she is showing some subtle signs of attraction. But who knows, maybe she is playful and wants some attention because she knows you like her (I do this very frequently!) But why you don't talk to her, find a way to go grab some coffee or whatever? Are you shy? Or inexperienced? Anyway, ask her out, we are not mind readers here. 2
smackie9 Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 Who cares what her behavior means....what is important here is that you are interested in her....go ask her out....that's how it's done! If you don't display confidence, you will not get a woman to say yes.
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