dreamysky Posted February 7, 2015 Posted February 7, 2015 I like a guy very much. We dated one year ago but it last less than a month. The reason he left is because i asked him for feelings and he said he is commitment phobe a bit and he avoids serious relationships. I don't know if he said the truth. One month after leaving he found another girl and stayed together 7 months. I was thinking of him and after learning of their break up i decided to approach him again. He seemed interested in me. We hanged out a few times and kissed several times. The kisses weren't serious because they were a result from a funny conversation we had. We watched and two movies together recently and said to do it again. I feel that lately he is less interested. I would like to talk with him more but i'm afraid he will get bored or keep the conversations small. In general he is a very kind and outgoing guy. I don't know if he has understood i'm interested. We are both singles and it's the perfect timing to try to approach him to become closer. What can i do? How do you see the situation? I told him twice about that movie we would see and he was busy as i was and we said to do it these days. I feel a bit embarrased telling him again but he doesn't initiate any conversations. Please don't tell me to leave him. Just give me advice.
Jessie1231 Posted February 7, 2015 Posted February 7, 2015 You ask for advice but say don't tell you to leave him, which is the best advice in your situation. He told you last year he was afraid of commitment, then he proceeded to commit to someone for seven months. Now he doesn't initiate conversation and seems to only have time for you when nothing better is around. If you want to feel like a last resort for someone and want to constantly question whether he cares, keep pursuing this relationship. If you'd like to have a relationship with someone who wants the same with you, keep moving.
Author dreamysky Posted February 7, 2015 Author Posted February 7, 2015 (edited) You ask for advice but say don't tell you to leave him, which is the best advice in your situation. He told you last year he was afraid of commitment, then he proceeded to commit to someone for seven months. Now he doesn't initiate conversation and seems to only have time for you when nothing better is around. If you want to feel like a last resort for someone and want to constantly question whether he cares, keep pursuing this relationship. If you'd like to have a relationship with someone who wants the same with you, keep moving. You know i have two questions. I heard him saying to someone in front of me for the relationship he had with this girl... he said "She wasn't and the most beautiful girl but i had fun". Why would he say that in front of me to his friends? Secondly... i'm a girl with a nice appearance and a good character. He ha told me he likes my character. We have so much in common. Do you think he might be bored when with me? The truth is that sometimes when we hang out there are times he becomes a bit bored because we have said a lot of things and i don't know what else to say. I mean could this also prevent him from giving it a chance with me? I can see at the way he looks at me he likes me. Edited February 7, 2015 by dreamysky
trolloperative Posted February 7, 2015 Posted February 7, 2015 I like a guy very much. We dated one year ago but it last less than a month. The reason he left is because i asked him for feelings and he said he is commitment phobe a bit and he avoids serious relationships. I don't know if he said the truth. One month after leaving he found another girl and stayed together 7 months. Yes, he was telling the truth. He doesn't want anything serious with you. Move on to someone who does.
trolloperative Posted February 7, 2015 Posted February 7, 2015 You know i have two questions. I heard him saying to someone in front of me for the relationship he had with this girl... he said "She wasn't and the most beautiful girl but i had fun". Why would he say that in front of me to his friends? Secondly... i'm a girl with a nice appearance and a good character. He ha told me he likes my character. We have so much in common. Do you think he might be bored when with me? The truth is that sometimes when we hang out there are times he becomes a bit bored because we have said a lot of things and i don't know what else to say. I mean could this also prevent him from giving it a chance with me? I can see at the way he looks at me he likes me. He obviously doesn't respect what you think of him. Why hang around and waste more time on him? To the bold: he was probably thinking of sex while looking at you. Means nothing.
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