AdverseYaw Posted February 7, 2015 Posted February 7, 2015 It's strange how I ended up here. I was adamant about sex after marriage, and I even thought I was asexual. However, after I met him, I felt... different. I met him online (off a pilot's forum). We were talking about innocent things for a month, but then he started mentioning what my body type is like. After describing it, he said he wanted a full body photo, but immediately apologised if that made me feel uncomfortable. I sent him innocent ones next to the plane. Then, he started hinting that if we met, we'll do more than kissing. I asked him if he has ever dated before weeks ago, he said no. So this time, I hesitantly asked if he was a virgin. He said yes. Then we starting sexting (roleplay, no naked pictures) and we discussed about the possibility of a long term relationship and leave sex for later. He is 20 and I am 18. Do you think what he said is the truth? I find it... hard to believe. I thought it's a fair trade to exchange virginities.
irresolute Posted February 7, 2015 Posted February 7, 2015 Who cares if he's a virgin or not. What is obvious is that he wants sex, not a relationship. From the moment he asks you a full body picture, to him saying he'll kiss you blah blah...it's just sex. You seem naive. Just be careful if that's not what you're looking for because this guy looks like he knows what he's doing 1
Author AdverseYaw Posted February 7, 2015 Author Posted February 7, 2015 (edited) Before, he told me he's not looking for anything casual at all. He said he's looking more for a long term relationship. But if all he wanted was sex, why would we talk about random things for a month for /this/ to happen? He even showed me pictures of his family. He asked me how we'd spend time together instead of flying. Edited February 7, 2015 by AdverseYaw
lovexocoach Posted February 7, 2015 Posted February 7, 2015 (edited) It's possible he is a virgin. There's no way to really know. On the other hand he could be playing you and trying to come across as being sexually inexperienced (especially if he knows you're a virigin). Did you tell him you were a virgin first? Talking about random things up to the "sex" talk could be one way to allay your fears and suspicions. Does it matter whether he's a virgin or not? What happened to your being adamant about sex after marriage - is it because you'd have sex before marriage if he's a virgin? He seems more interested in sex than having a relationship. Be careful and find out what's really going on before becoming involved. Remember, he's a stranger until you get to know him and those in his life including his friends and family. And what he says isn't necessarily true. Edited February 7, 2015 by lovexocoach
d0nnivain Posted February 7, 2015 Posted February 7, 2015 You can't judge this over the internet. You need to look in his eyes, at his face & at his overall body language to determine the truth. Personally I assume most of what people tell me on line is a lie.
preraph Posted February 7, 2015 Posted February 7, 2015 ^ This. And do NOT start sending him suggestive pictures. You can never ever take them back and all your future employers and bfs and parents will see them eventually. I can't imagine a virgin guy having the nerve to ask you for body shots. Just tell him no on that and stop the sexting and tell him if he wants to meet, you'll see him out in public ONLY, and stick to that. You'll soon find out what he's up to. I cannot tell you how many guys there are out there who are perfectly content to not ever really go out with girls but instead see how many they can get to sext and send sexy pictures so they can masturbate. So just think of that every time you do either of those things, because that IS what's going on.
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