Sweetescape910 Posted February 7, 2015 Posted February 7, 2015 So basically me and this guy(let's call him Sam) were dating for a couple months, nothing labeled. He wanted a relationship, as did I. Eventually, down the line, he was feeling depressed and weird. He ended it with me in a very respectful way, but I was still hurt. Eventually, we would talk and I asked him if he wanted to be with me in the future and he said he's thought about it and if he's ready he would want to. He has this friend that's not a real "friend" the type that would get with your ex. We would like each others instagram photos whenever one was uploaded. It's not like we went on each others pages and liked every single picture from weeks ago. Anyway, the guy I was seeing called me out on it (a while after he ended it) and told me if bothers him. He said he ended it for reasons other than not liking me. I told him I won't like his friends pictures anymore. Fast forward, I unfollowed Sam off instagram because I couldn't stand seeing him liking other girls pictures. He got offended but I told him the truth. Eventually I asked him for a ride home from school and he said no because I "ignore him at school" (which I don't) but I kind of pushed him to meet up with me in person and he didn't want to. He said he would talk to me over text but he never texted me or called or got back to me. I felt hurt and I thought he didn't care about me anymore, so I started liking a few of his friends photos again. (Whenever they were uploaded) HE WOULD LIKE MINE TOO. Anywho, Sam cursed me out, called me fat, a liar, deceiver, said he had a better body than me and is getting with a hotter girl than me now and saying I'm a prude and all these degrading hurtful things, telling me to shut the *** up. All because I liked his friends photos. I see him at school, and we haven't talked in over a month since it happened. It hurts how someone can act so territorial and jealous but not give a crap about me. If you don't like me anymore, why do you care? He said it was an "ego thing" but I don't think that's fair to me. He ended it with me and we never dated. Plus he ended it with me in September. I feel like crap about it. I realize it was immature of me to keep liking his friends photos, but it was more messed up of him to give me false hope he still had feelings for me. why does this still bother me?
Author Sweetescape910 Posted February 7, 2015 Author Posted February 7, 2015 Oh, and if your amazing enough, read my previous threads for more insight. By the way, I'm a very good hearted person, and till this day I still care about this guy. I don't get what's wrong with me? How can I still care for a guy who told me to get rid of my stomach and tell me he's hotter than me and all that crap?
Mi7522 Posted February 7, 2015 Posted February 7, 2015 He sounds like a douche so tell him to go kick rocks and then smile to yourself because he is no longer in your life
Author Sweetescape910 Posted February 7, 2015 Author Posted February 7, 2015 He sounds like a douche so tell him to go kick rocks and then smile to yourself because he is no longer in your life Ah, someone calling him a douche makes me feel better. This happened over a month ago (the longest we went without talking). I sometimes wonder if he'll ever say something to me at school if he sees me. We only saw eachother once. It makes me feel like crap, because I would NEVER EVER do that to someone! Even if they did the most horrible thing to me (like cheating) maybe I would cuss them out, but I would never degrade them nor make them feel inferior. I'm a very kindhearted person. I hate how I still care for him. I guess it's because I think of him as the person I used to think he was (all fun and easy going) How do I make myself lose attatchment?
Mi7522 Posted February 7, 2015 Posted February 7, 2015 From what you wrote I think it will be easier than you think to lose the attachment. Just re-read your original post. He is not worth your time
Author Sweetescape910 Posted February 9, 2015 Author Posted February 9, 2015 So basically me and this guy(let's call him Sam) were dating for a couple months, nothing labeled. He wanted a relationship, as did I. Eventually, down the line, he was feeling depressed and weird. He ended it with me in a very respectful way, but I was still hurt. Eventually, we would talk and I asked him if he wanted to be with me in the future and he said he's thought about it and if he's ready he would want to. He has this friend that's not a real "friend" the type that would get with your ex. We would like each others instagram photos whenever one was uploaded. It's not like we went on each others pages and liked every single picture from weeks ago. Anyway, the guy I was seeing called me out on it (a while after he ended it) and told me if bothers him. He said he ended it for reasons other than not liking me. I told him I won't like his friends pictures anymore. Fast forward, I unfollowed Sam off instagram because I couldn't stand seeing him liking other girls pictures. He got offended but I told him the truth. Eventually I asked him for a ride home from school and he said no because I "ignore him at school" (which I don't) but I kind of pushed him to meet up with me in person and he didn't want to. He said he would talk to me over text but he never texted me or called or got back to me. I felt hurt and I thought he didn't care about me anymore, so I started liking a few of his friends photos again. (Whenever they were uploaded) HE WOULD LIKE MINE TOO. Anywho, Sam cursed me out, called me fat, a liar, deceiver, said he had a better body than me and is getting with a hotter girl than me now and saying I'm a prude and all these degrading hurtful things, telling me to shut the *** up. All because I liked his friends photos. I see him at school, and we haven't talked in over a month since it happened. It hurts how someone can act so territorial and jealous but not give a crap about me. If you don't like me anymore, why do you care? He said it was an "ego thing" but I don't think that's fair to me. He ended it with me and we never dated. Plus he ended it with me in September. I feel like crap about it. I don't think it's fair how he never confronted his friend or yelled at him, but I get the blame for it all. I realize it was immature of me to like his friends photos after he told me not to, but I really thought he stopped caring. Now when I see him and we just basically ignore eachother, it hurts. Why am I still attatched?
Jay13094 Posted February 9, 2015 Posted February 9, 2015 because he's a fu*kboy thats why. The fact that he's telling it to you face saying like it was for my "ego" or whatever just shows how much of a douche bag this guy really is. I mean you probably still like him which is why it bothers you, since if someone you don't give two cents about said that to you.. you'd just brush it off. He's extremely immature and also seems like someone who gets extremely jealous and controlling. If you were to be in a relationship with him, i feel like he's so insecure that he wouldn't trust you and you wouldn't be able to be friends with any guys. Either way- sounds like you dodged a bullet. 1
dezzy1028p Posted February 9, 2015 Posted February 9, 2015 I had a similar scenario to you. I agree with Jay13094, that they may be someone who is controlling, immature, insecure, posessive, and jealous. In my case, my ex broke up with me. In my relationship, he really was controlling because he didn't allow me to do hobbies I enjoyed or be around friends (especially guy friends). He broke up with me, so i decided at one point to cut all contact by blocking him from my phone so I wouldn't get hurt. And guess what, he texts me through another number all upset that i blocked him. In the way you began liking his friend's photos, I began to talk to guy friends again (because I could since i wasn't tied to my ex anymore, i was free to actually talk to people). In the same way, it's not your fault for liking a photo...unless you have intentions to piss him and make him jealous. However, him calling you those names were wrong and he has no right to say such things (which my ex did the same, he called me a liar and cheater which i wasn't. My ex felt better blaming things on me and assuming things; he also believed he was always right). My thoughts, are that your ex just wants to hold you on the side and wanting you to have the attached feeling you have. I thought the same thing..that if you broke up with me, why do you care about who i talk to now (because he didn't want me, he just wanted me to want him while he can live his life happy). Remember, his reactions are not your fault. He is the only one that can fix how he feels and he makes himself mad. Don't allow his mean words to impact you, you are not at fault. DON'T blame yourself for anything. I was with my ex for a year and a half. We broke up two months ago, and be grateful that you haven't experienced a long relationship with this person. Try to refrain from people like that because they mess you up. I'm still in the process of healing from an emotionally abusive, manipulative, controlling relationship. It's better it ended sooner than later. Show him you are not desperate to go back. YOU are strong! Show him you dont need him, and that you are happier. Go ahead and live social media (i would highly recommending blocking him though and deleting him off your friends list). Remember, all he wants is just to have you attached..and you are NOT a dog on a leash. You're free now! Embrace it and be around people who make you happy and do things that make you happy! And i promise you, one day you'll look back and thank yourself for not being in a relationship like that. And you will be with a man who treats you right as the amazing person you are.
Author Sweetescape910 Posted February 9, 2015 Author Posted February 9, 2015 because he's a fu*kboy thats why. The fact that he's telling it to you face saying like it was for my "ego" or whatever just shows how much of a douche bag this guy really is. I mean you probably still like him which is why it bothers you, since if someone you don't give two cents about said that to you.. you'd just brush it off. He's extremely immature and also seems like someone who gets extremely jealous and controlling. If you were to be in a relationship with him, i feel like he's so insecure that he wouldn't trust you and you wouldn't be able to be friends with any guys. Either way- sounds like you dodged a bullet. You're so right. It just makes me angry because I wasn't too much of a bitch to him during that argue ment, and now I'm sitting here with a list of all the things I could have said to him that made all the sense in the world. And I'm just stuck here with that list that I can never be able to tell. I'm just still so angry because I was honestly such a nice loving person to him and him doing that really just ticks me off to this day. He called me a prude and stuff because I wouldn't have sex with him and all this crap. I have THOUSANDS of things I wanted to say but it was too late because I was so in heat of the moment I wasn't thinking properly. And now that I am, I could have owned his ass sooooo bad and made him feel so stupid. I don't know how to get over it and move on from that "list". I guess write a letter? Talk to my psychologist? I don't know. But I really really resent him. He's one of the worst human beings I've ever met. Even if someone cheated on me, I wouldn't ever talk to them like that. And the fact I wasn't even in a relationship with him makes it worse. I hate him and I don't wAnt him to be happy. I want him to have karma and I don't wish the best for him at all. This is so out of my character because I really wish the best for everyone. I have such a big heart. Anyways, thank you.
Jay13094 Posted February 10, 2015 Posted February 10, 2015 You're so right. It just makes me angry because I wasn't too much of a bitch to him during that argue ment, and now I'm sitting here with a list of all the things I could have said to him that made all the sense in the world. And I'm just stuck here with that list that I can never be able to tell. I'm just still so angry because I was honestly such a nice loving person to him and him doing that really just ticks me off to this day. He called me a prude and stuff because I wouldn't have sex with him and all this crap. I have THOUSANDS of things I wanted to say but it was too late because I was so in heat of the moment I wasn't thinking properly. And now that I am, I could have owned his ass sooooo bad and made him feel so stupid. I don't know how to get over it and move on from that "list". I guess write a letter? Talk to my psychologist? I don't know. But I really really resent him. He's one of the worst human beings I've ever met. Even if someone cheated on me, I wouldn't ever talk to them like that. And the fact I wasn't even in a relationship with him makes it worse. I hate him and I don't wAnt him to be happy. I want him to have karma and I don't wish the best for him at all. This is so out of my character because I really wish the best for everyone. I have such a big heart. Anyways, thank you. while i understand your resentment.... believe me i am exactly where you are because as much as i say i hate him, and should despise him- i still care for him. which is literally so stupid, but sometimes you just can't help that. What i suggest for you is to write it on a blog. Write what you want to say and vent it all out. Also write a letter towards him like everything you want to say to him, but never send it out. Re-read that letter in a week or two and see how different you're mentality for him is going to be. You're thought process won't be the same cz sure in hell wasn't when i re-read my "letter" to him before. All we feel right now is something that we will be able to move on from. Believe me, I thought i was going crazy and i've never been this hurt in my life- hell i've never even had an official boyfriend this is all typical for me. Yet, he hurt me the most but its getting better each and every day. The less fcks you give, the better off you are. Easier said than done, b/c i understand that no matter the amount of advice you get... nothing will change unless YOU CHANGE for YOURSELF. good luck<3
Author Sweetescape910 Posted February 12, 2015 Author Posted February 12, 2015 So basically me and this guy(let's call him Sam) were dating for a couple months, nothing labeled. He wanted a relationship, as did I. Eventually, down the line, he was feeling depressed and weird. He ended it with me in a very respectful way, but I was still hurt. Eventually, we would talk and I asked him if he wanted to be with me in the future and he said he's thought about it and if he's ready he would want to. He has this friend that's not a real "friend" the type that would get with your ex. We would like each others instagram photos whenever one was uploaded. It's not like we went on each others pages and liked every single picture from weeks ago. Anyway, the guy I was seeing called me out on it (a while after he ended it) and told me if bothers him. He said he ended it for reasons other than not liking me. I told him I won't like his friends pictures anymore. Fast forward, I unfollowed Sam off instagram because I couldn't stand seeing him liking other girls pictures. He got offended but I told him the truth. Eventually I asked him for a ride home from school and he said no because I "ignore him at school" (which I don't) but I kind of pushed him to meet up with me in person and he didn't want to. He said he would talk to me over text but he never texted me or called or got back to me. I felt hurt and I thought he didn't care about me anymore, so I started liking a few of his friends photos again. (Whenever they were uploaded) HE WOULD LIKE MINE TOO. Anywho, Sam cursed me out, called me fat, a liar, deceiver, said he had a better body than me and is getting with a hotter girl than me now and saying I'm a prude and all these degrading hurtful things, telling me to shut the *** up. All because I liked his friends photos. I see him at school, and we haven't talked in over a month since it happened. It hurts how someone can act so territorial and jealous but not give a crap about me. If you don't like me anymore, why do you care? He said it was an "ego thing" but I don't think that's fair to me. He ended it with me and we never dated. Plus he ended it with me in September. I feel like crap about it. I realize it was immature of me to keep liking his friends photos, but it was more messed up of him to give me false hope he still had feelings for me. why does this still bother me? I try to not care but I always find myself looking at his instagram (not private and I don't follow him) to see what he's up to. If he's such a horrible guy in my eyes then why am I still clingingn? I have these dreams about him being who I thought he was before the whole fight.
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