MaryRose Posted February 7, 2015 Posted February 7, 2015 Hello everyone im new to this forum. My last relationship was 10 months ago and it was a very serious 3 year relationship. I'm 21 years old and this is been the longest I've been single since I was 14 lol. I'm worried that I lost my "touch" or something. My ex boyfriend jumped into a new relationship not even 2 months after we broke up and I'm still sitting here 10 months later. At first I was happy to be single, enjoy the single life and focus on my self but now I'm incredibly lonely. I hate it. I hate not have someone in my life all of a sudden and while im sure Valentine's Day has something to do with my sudden loneliness I know that im still worried as to why I'm still single, im wondering if I should join match.com. The only thing that has been holding me back is the money(it's expensive in my opinion) but I'm feeling so alone lately and I miss dating that im really close to just biting the bullet and joining it. What do you guys think? Should i? Is it weird I've been single for almost a year?
4everloveu Posted February 7, 2015 Posted February 7, 2015 Take it easy and take time to find new love. You still young and you will find someone when the timing is right. Go out with friend and have fun. I wish I could be your age but time fly. I have been single for a long time and enjoy my single life. I know when there is time that you feel lonely. I been there and done that. Cheers 1
somedude81 Posted February 7, 2015 Posted February 7, 2015 What have you done in these 10 months to try and stop being single?
MidwestUSA Posted February 7, 2015 Posted February 7, 2015 In the grand scheme of things, 10 months isn't long. You spent three years in a relationship and you're only 21 years old! It's time to experience life for yourself! Plus, it takes time to get over someone after three years. Don't think about the fact that he's moved on, things are probably not going all that well for him - she's a rebound. Look forward to Valentine's day being over, I know I used to. I would suggest getting out, involved in hobbies, the gym or whatever, and meet up groups in lieu of OLD. I'd hate to see you confine yourself to meeting people online vs IRL. If this is the longest you've been single since 14, well, just wow. It's ME time! You may very well find, at 25, that what you're looking for has completely changed. 2
Author MaryRose Posted February 7, 2015 Author Posted February 7, 2015 What have you done in these 10 months to try and stop being single? Went on a couple of dates. been going to the gym(I don't need to lose weight but I'm trying to get fit, not just for a guy but for myself) pretty much it, any tips on what else I should be doing?
Author MaryRose Posted February 7, 2015 Author Posted February 7, 2015 In the grand scheme of things, 10 months isn't long. You spent three years in a relationship and you're only 21 years old! It's time to experience life for yourself! Plus, it takes time to get over someone after three years. Don't think about the fact that he's moved on, things are probably not going all that well for him - she's a rebound. Look forward to Valentine's day being over, I know I used to. I would suggest getting out, involved in hobbies, the gym or whatever, and meet up groups in lieu of OLD. I'd hate to see you confine yourself to meeting people online vs IRL. If this is the longest you've been single since 14, well, just wow. It's ME time! You may very well find, at 25, that what you're looking for has completely changed. I've been going to the gym, working a lot and hanging out with friends. You're right about the me time, I have been enjoying taking care of myself and bettering myself. Thanks for your answer it made me feel a little better:) 1
spanishchick00 Posted February 7, 2015 Posted February 7, 2015 There's nothing wrong with you. You're 21 and young. Now, if you were my age and single, you should be worried.
Leigh 87 Posted February 7, 2015 Posted February 7, 2015 I hate to break it to you but it takes many people until their 30's and even 40's to find someone to date - and someone that lasts with them long term. I am 28 and I want to hold out for a guy I am actually into but sadly I cannot get the guys I am into - I am likely going to take about 10 years minimum to find a guy that I am into, who is also into me. And I am a slim girl with a nice smile - it takes normal pleasant people a very long time to find a compatible person who they are actually into in a romantic sense. The majority of people seem to be in relationships but most relationships aren't that great! Honestly, most couples aren't madly in love at all. Don't make the same mistake that most people do - settling into a relationship because you hate being single and you feel it is better than being alone. Hold out for someone you are really into and don't just settle for the sake of wanting a relationship. You are heading in that path (settling) if you don't learn to enjoy life as a single woman. Always remember: most relationships are cr@p! Very few people hold out for a truly suitable partner who they have sufficient chemistry with! 1
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