She's given me a bad reputation. All of our mutual friends think I'm a loser

[RussianStallion]

First post here. 2 years ago, during sex, my girlfriend was on top. She was inexperienced, and ended up sitting on my dick. It was a minor fracture(look it up, real thing)...over the next year and a half, i became a very insecure man. My dick had a mild deformity, and it was very hard to maintain an *****.

 

I kept the severity of it to myself, because I was embarrassed and knew it would cause issues between my girlfriend and parents if I had to get surgery. It got worse and worse, to the point that I couldn't enjoy sex and was completely depressed/insecure.

 

I constantly thought she would dump me, but still kept it to myself because I also didn't want her to feel bad. It became so weak that the fracture reoccurred multiple times.. Eventually, i was so insecure I became needy. Constantly asked her if she was planning on dumping me. Then...she did. Within two weeks she was dating a new man (shes 22, I'm 22, the new guy is 30).

 

I freaked out, became depressed and suicidal. My ***** was permanently ruined, and I lost the girl who caused it. She didn't ever contact me again. Eventually, I started chasing her. For about four months, I sent her occasional emails, telling her finally what had happened. She won't reply, and takes no blame. She says "its not my problem", and acts as though I'm hurting her by contacting her. She has blocked me, stopped all communication.

 

She likely thinks I'm obsessed, but what does she expect? NO man has ever been so brutally scarred by a woman. I want to regain my dignity. I don't think its that strange to become incredibly insecure and freak out after a breakup, in which a fractured ***** is involved. Do you?

 

She's given me a bad reputation. All of our mutual friends think I'm a loser and obsessed. It's just so hard not to be obsessed when I'm permanently stuck with this injury. She just won't give me any sympathy. Treats me like I'm a stalker. I literally will never have a functioning *****, and she cheated on me and now says I'm crazy for chasing her. Any advice??

 

I'll also note, this girl is the most beautiful girl alive. It's a fact. She should be a movie star. I was very confident when we started dating, but this injury ruined my life and I've lost my love. WHAT DO I DO????

[Jimmyjackson]

First post here. 2 years ago, during sex, my girlfriend was on top. She was inexperienced, and ended up sitting on my dick. It was a minor fracture(look it up, real thing)...over the next year and a half, i became a very insecure man. My dick had a mild deformity, and it was very hard to maintain an *****.

 

I kept the severity of it to myself, because I was embarrassed and knew it would cause issues between my girlfriend and parents if I had to get surgery. It got worse and worse, to the point that I couldn't enjoy sex and was completely depressed/insecure.

 

I constantly thought she would dump me, but still kept it to myself because I also didn't want her to feel bad. It became so weak that the fracture reoccurred multiple times.. Eventually, i was so insecure I became needy. Constantly asked her if she was planning on dumping me. Then...she did. Within two weeks she was dating a new man (shes 22, I'm 22, the new guy is 30).

 

I freaked out, became depressed and suicidal. My ***** was permanently ruined, and I lost the girl who caused it. She didn't ever contact me again. Eventually, I started chasing her. For about four months, I sent her occasional emails, telling her finally what had happened. She won't reply, and takes no blame. She says "its not my problem", and acts as though I'm hurting her by contacting her. She has blocked me, stopped all communication.

 

She likely thinks I'm obsessed, but what does she expect? NO man has ever been so brutally scarred by a woman. I want to regain my dignity. I don't think its that strange to become incredibly insecure and freak out after a breakup, in which a fractured ***** is involved. Do you?

 

She's given me a bad reputation. All of our mutual friends think I'm a loser and obsessed. It's just so hard not to be obsessed when I'm permanently stuck with this injury. She just won't give me any sympathy. Treats me like I'm a stalker. I literally will never have a functioning *****, and she cheated on me and now says I'm crazy for chasing her. Any advice??

 

I'll also note, this girl is the most beautiful girl alive. It's a fact. She should be a movie star. I was very confident when we started dating, but this injury ruined my life and I've lost my love. WHAT DO I DO????

 

It seems you drove her away with your insecurity, it sucks what happened to your little solider but if you had talked about it with her then it probably would've been alright, I doubt she would've took it badly or anything.

 

The past is the past though, what you do is stop pestering her and get your confidence back.

[Ieris]

It doesn't matter what others think of you, what matters is what you think of yourself. If your penis is what is making you feel down, then look at what your options are in fixing that. Is surgery still an option?

 

I agree with Jimmyjackson, focus on getting your confidence back. Don't waste time chasing someone who doesn't want to be in your life.

[EgoJoe]

This is one scenario where I don't recommend the high road.

[organizedchaos]

First post here. 2 years ago, during sex, my girlfriend was on top. She was inexperienced, and ended up sitting on my dick. It was a minor fracture(look it up, real thing)...over the next year and a half, i became a very insecure man. My dick had a mild deformity, and it was very hard to maintain an *****.

 

I kept the severity of it to myself, because I was embarrassed and knew it would cause issues between my girlfriend and parents if I had to get surgery. It got worse and worse, to the point that I couldn't enjoy sex and was completely depressed/insecure.

 

I constantly thought she would dump me, but still kept it to myself because I also didn't want her to feel bad. It became so weak that the fracture reoccurred multiple times.. Eventually, i was so insecure I became needy. Constantly asked her if she was planning on dumping me. Then...she did. Within two weeks she was dating a new man (shes 22, I'm 22, the new guy is 30).

 

I freaked out, became depressed and suicidal. My ***** was permanently ruined, and I lost the girl who caused it. She didn't ever contact me again. Eventually, I started chasing her. For about four months, I sent her occasional emails, telling her finally what had happened. She won't reply, and takes no blame. She says "its not my problem", and acts as though I'm hurting her by contacting her. She has blocked me, stopped all communication.

 

She likely thinks I'm obsessed, but what does she expect? NO man has ever been so brutally scarred by a woman. I want to regain my dignity. I don't think its that strange to become incredibly insecure and freak out after a breakup, in which a fractured ***** is involved. Do you?

 

She's given me a bad reputation. All of our mutual friends think I'm a loser and obsessed. It's just so hard not to be obsessed when I'm permanently stuck with this injury. She just won't give me any sympathy. Treats me like I'm a stalker. I literally will never have a functioning *****, and she cheated on me and now says I'm crazy for chasing her. Any advice??

 

I'll also note, this girl is the most beautiful girl alive. It's a fact. She should be a movie star. I was very confident when we started dating, but this injury ruined my life and I've lost my love. WHAT DO I DO????

 

I'm missing the part of the story where she's giving you a bad reputation. How is she doing that? And why do your friends think you're a loser?

 

As for your physical issues? You're partly to blame. You chose to do nothing about it.