MapleWish Posted February 6, 2015 Posted February 6, 2015 me and my guy courted for a few months but broke up in Jan. he recently went through a divorce (they were together like 4 years, it was his first real relationship) and clarified he isnt ready to date just yet. we dont do anything physical, we havent even kissed yet, we're not friends with benefits. we ARE exclusive, i'm not talking to anyone else and neither is he. the sitch isnt a typical one, he isnt using me, i'm not his backup girl, we're basically dating but without the label. we no longer text everyday, no morning/goodnight texts and we dont see eachother AS much but still quite a bit. he has said he really likes me, he just doesnt know what he wants right now which i get since he just got burned from his divorce. lately i've been "going with the flow" and taking this day by day and things have been going good, but last night it kinda popped up i asked "are we a couple" and he shrugged (idk if he was joking or not) and i'm like "well are we single?" and he shrugged again. i think taking it day by day is a good idea but sometimes i get neurotic like right now and worry too much no we werent dating while he was with his wife. and well not so much DATING, we call it courting, you hang out with someone and see if youre compatible but you dont do anything physical. we also dont act like friends, i dont treat him like a regular guy friend and i'm not makin anything up or JUSTIFYING anything, me and him have had numerous talks about what we want from eachother and what we want for the futue, he likes me, he WANTS to date me (court me) and in fact we tried but he knew his head wasnt in the game yet, if he didnt wanna be with me, even be the way we are now, he'd tell me. he's not gonna lead me on
preraph Posted February 6, 2015 Posted February 6, 2015 Well, don't spend so much time with him that the new wears off before you have sex. He's just not over his divorce yet. When he is, there's the likelihood that he will begin dating others as well. That's what all of his friends will be telling him to do.
ExpatInItaly Posted February 6, 2015 Posted February 6, 2015 It sounds too complicated for me. You're not dating, yet you're more than friends and not talking to anyone else. He doesn't know if you're a couple, yet he doesn't know if you're single. He doesn't know what he wants. Yeah...move on. This won't end well for you, I think.
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