daddydater4 Posted February 6, 2015 Posted February 6, 2015 So to start off, this is a friendly post. Please no haters, trolls, or *******s. I am having a very legit issue right now that I would like to talk about. And if everyone can ignore my username, it was rushed. So I'm a gay 19 year old. I have recently accepted that I am gay, and have been looking for someone to spend time with, with a little side of fun. I met this man earlier this week. We originally met online, but decided to meet in person. When I met him, and got to know him a little better, I was just swept off my feet. This man was kind, honest, caring, and pretty much exactly my type. (Now to just acknowledge the elephant in the room, he is 54, and there's no doubt in my mind that he really likes me) We both graduated from the same high school, and both were on the receiving end of some pretty cruel bullying. When were together, it feels like all the bad stuff just falls away. He told me he feels very protective of me, and he's being very careful of not hurting my feelings. This is where it get's a little uncomfortable. It turns out that he's married. Him and his partner haven't been sexual in years, and that they have an understanding. This does bother me a little, but no so much that he's has someone else in his life, but that him and I won't be able to really be together. Ok, back to something a little easier. Him and I are always talking to each other. Whether it's texting, or calling, or in person. He's always trying to find a way to see me, and he tells me how much I mean to him. Last night he told me that the thought of him losing me just ****s with his head. I feel the same way as he does. Whenever I'm not around him, or talking to him, I just feel depressed. So here where the painful part comes in. Last night, out of my sheer stupidity and lack or thinking before opening my stupid mouth, I told him that I will be moving away next fall. Now this really hurt him, and it hurts me knowing that he's hurt. I'm absolutely crazy about this man, and not a second goes by where I'm not thinking about him. So the question is, should I tell him how I feel. because I feel like this could go two ways. Either he sees that I want to be with him, and he moves with me, or things will end even more painfully. If I could get your feedback on this, I would really appreciate it.
irresolute Posted February 6, 2015 Posted February 6, 2015 You met him last week and you already love him. Right. You're 19 and he's 54 and married. Right. You told him you're moving out and he's really hurt. Don't make me laugh. He's hurt because he might not have enough time to bang you, that's all. Please don't be mad at me for being so clear. You have tons to experiment and you'll surely do. Just don't be that naive, will you? He's an old man and he might
Gaeta Posted February 6, 2015 Posted February 6, 2015 So the question is, should I tell him how I feel. because I feel like this could go two ways. Either he sees that I want to be with him, and he moves with me, or things will end even more painfully. If I could get your feedback on this, I would really appreciate it. Love, whether it's between different gender or same gender, falls under the same rules. I am sorry to announced to you, you are just the other man. He told you already him and his life partner have an understanding and they will remain together. He will never leave him for you. This new man of yours has the best of both worlds. He has financial and emotive security with his current partner and he has excitement, thrill, newness with you. Sure you can tell him how you feel, it won't change a thing. He won't leave the person for you, and it does not change the fact you are still moving away in fall. Do yourself a favor, end this. You deserve someone that is totally free to love and care for you. You are going to waste your precious time with him.
irresolute Posted February 6, 2015 Posted February 6, 2015 You met him last week and you already love him. Right. You're 19 and he's 54 and married. Right. You told him you're moving out and he's really hurt. Don't make me laugh. He's hurt because he might not have enough time to bang you, that's all. Please don't be mad at me for being so clear. You have tons to experiment and you'll surely do. Just don't be that naive, will you? He's an old man and he might Sorry. He might only want sex, that's what I was going to say.
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