keal Posted February 6, 2015 Posted February 6, 2015 Me and my boyfriend broke up last weekend after living together for 6 months. Which was what completely ruined our relationship. I did no contacy only from Monday until Thursday and went to stay with a friend. I decided I wanted to see him and talk to him yesterday, deep down hoping that he would of spent the few days miserable without me and would want me back, or that he would have missed me. When I went to talk he basically admitted that he didn't care that I was gone and in fact happier and enjoying the time on his own. He said some pretty hurtful things that destroyed me inside, I couldn't hold it in and just ended up crying right in front of him. He didn't even look at me nor comfort me, it was like I am nothing but a stranger to him. I dedicated all my time and my life to him, and he didn't care. When I arrived he said we could try been together when I have my own apartment and have a break first, then in the same conversation he said he just wants to me alone and wouldn't make any effort if we did get back together so there is no reason to. Then after he made that decision he said that he doesn't know what he wants and I need to give him some time. This has really destroyed me as a person. I haven't eaten anything but a few bites per day, but on top of the constant vomiting I know this isn't enough. I am living in a foreign country where I met him and despite my life plans I decided to stay here for him, now he has just thrown me out with nothing. I can't get the support from my family as I am so far away, I have few friends here and no where to live, I'm sick from the hunger and I just feel like giving up. Can somebody help me, I really don't know what to do with myself.
fronk Posted February 6, 2015 Posted February 6, 2015 Man I feel your pain as my GF of 3+ yrs broke up with me this past Sunday and I've been a mess. I can't eat or sleep either. I'm in your boat so I don't have any answers for you but know that you are not alone.
Light Breeze Posted February 6, 2015 Posted February 6, 2015 OP, what was the exact cause of the breakup? I'm trying to understand why he acted the way he did. Seems, pretty cruel.
SycamoreCircle Posted February 6, 2015 Posted February 6, 2015 If your situation is as desperate as you claim, you need to to set aside the BU for a second and focus on practical concerns. That is, a place to stay, food, security. Once some sort of temporary security is established, then you can focus on the BU and what next long term step you need to make to be happy---if that's leaving the country or staying. 1
Author keal Posted February 10, 2015 Author Posted February 10, 2015 I have found an apartment in the city and moved in at the weekend. The last time we spoke was still last Thursday and we haven't had any contact since. The last thing he told me was for me to wait because he needs a break which was 5 days ago. I still miss him and I'm hoping he will call me but nothing so far. The problem was living together, always been together and not having our own space which caused tension from the beginning until he couldn't handle it anymore.
seminoles84 Posted February 10, 2015 Posted February 10, 2015 The problem was living together, always been together and not having our own space which caused tension from the beginning until he couldn't handle it anymore. And you think there's a future with him? You do realize you'd eventually have to move back in with each other.
Kinetica84 Posted February 10, 2015 Posted February 10, 2015 Me and my boyfriend broke up last weekend after living together for 6 months. Which was what completely ruined our relationship. I did no contacy only from Monday until Thursday and went to stay with a friend. I decided I wanted to see him and talk to him yesterday, deep down hoping that he would of spent the few days miserable without me and would want me back, or that he would have missed me. When I went to talk he basically admitted that he didn't care that I was gone and in fact happier and enjoying the time on his own. He said some pretty hurtful things that destroyed me inside, I couldn't hold it in and just ended up crying right in front of him. He didn't even look at me nor comfort me, it was like I am nothing but a stranger to him. I dedicated all my time and my life to him, and he didn't care. When I arrived he said we could try been together when I have my own apartment and have a break first, then in the same conversation he said he just wants to me alone and wouldn't make any effort if we did get back together so there is no reason to. Then after he made that decision he said that he doesn't know what he wants and I need to give him some time. This has really destroyed me as a person. I haven't eaten anything but a few bites per day, but on top of the constant vomiting I know this isn't enough. I am living in a foreign country where I met him and despite my life plans I decided to stay here for him, now he has just thrown me out with nothing. I can't get the support from my family as I am so far away, I have few friends here and no where to live, I'm sick from the hunger and I just feel like giving up. Can somebody help me, I really don't know what to do with myself. Wow Keal. I am so sorry you are going through this. Firstly, you have accept that he has checked out of your relationship. Do no give him any more effort. You need to put that effort into you now. Secondly. How hard would it to go back to your home country like as soon as possible? What country are you in and where do you need to go? Don't worry about the big stuff, just take with you what you need to survive. Call your parents and go stay with them. Thirdly, i know the lost of appetite is huge. I went through it big time. I am nutrition coach and all my knowledge was telling me to eat but i couldn't. I am saying you need to try and eat. If you can't too big of a portion right now, go for my calorie dense foods to make up your calorie intake, obviously trying to keep in fruit and veg and good sources of protein. It is so important. Fourthly. You put so much into him now you are at loss of what to do. I am slowly slowly readjusting back to single life, taking the mortgage on by myself, living from pay check to pay check, not being able to going out as much as i want and so one. The last 6 months have been the toughest of my life but it has made me stronger. Yeah i still think about her daily and get angry sometimes but life has to go on. There is no easy answer here. You are going have to pick yourself up, lick your wounds, dust yourself off and march on. That is all you can do. He is no longer part of your life, assume he is dead to you and push forward. I hope you feel better soon and you find your way.
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