fluidian Posted February 6, 2015 Posted February 6, 2015 I went out on a first date/meeting with someone from online on Tuesday. Things seemed to go well, good conversation, talk about getting together again, no kiss, but I was fine with that, and then a text from her probably right when she got home trying to confirm a date for Saturday. The next day (Wednesday), I responded to the text, saying that she was more than welcome to join me on a few of my anticipated activities, or else we could plan on the evening. Moreover, I said I would have time to look into some evening activities yesterday evening and today (which I did). Anyhow, it's been a day and half since I texted her, and haven't heard a word. At this point, it's Thursday night and likely too late to call her to try to confirm. Is this a case of someone having second thoughts and trying to bail, is she expecting me to follow-up with her again? Tomorrow's Friday - should I call her? If yes, when? Just after work? As I mentioned - total novice here, so any thoughts would help. If you need more information, let me know what info you want. Thanks!
mightycpa Posted February 6, 2015 Posted February 6, 2015 The next day (Wednesday), I responded to the text, saying that she was more than welcome to join me on a few of my anticipated activities Call today and confirm, and next time, be a little more clear/enthusiastic with your date messages. There is a huge difference between: You're welcome to join me and It's a date!
Author fluidian Posted February 6, 2015 Author Posted February 6, 2015 Got it - call to confirm. That's what I was thinking - but I get thrown back from text silence.
mightycpa Posted February 6, 2015 Posted February 6, 2015 Got it - call to confirm. That's what I was thinking - but I get thrown back from text silence. don't be afraid, just make the call
d0nnivain Posted February 6, 2015 Posted February 6, 2015 Got it - call to confirm. That's what I was thinking - but I get thrown back from text silence. Not everybody is a text-er. Look at it this way, you could call to confirm a hotel reservation or a business meeting, wouldn't you? this isn't that different even if it's more personal.
Author fluidian Posted February 6, 2015 Author Posted February 6, 2015 Not everybody is a text-er. Look at it this way, you could call to confirm a hotel reservation or a business meeting, wouldn't you? this isn't that different even if it's more personal. I hate to say it, but I actually don't call to confirm hotel reservations or business meetings...
Author fluidian Posted February 6, 2015 Author Posted February 6, 2015 Call or text her. She contacted me shortly after I posted. Getting the plan in place is still a work in progress, but it should workout...
irresolute Posted February 6, 2015 Posted February 6, 2015 She contacted me shortly after I posted. Getting the plan in place is still a work in progress, but it should workout... Awesome news!! Now, relax, and enjoy!
smackie9 Posted February 6, 2015 Posted February 6, 2015 I hate to say it, but I actually don't call to confirm hotel reservations or business meetings... Dating etiquette has nothing to with professionalism.
Dybbuk Posted February 7, 2015 Posted February 7, 2015 Honestly if a guy I just met said "You're welcome to join me" on stuff he already had planned for a second date... it gives me the impression that regardless if I'm there or not he's going to do things with or without me... so I wouldn't be feeling too confident about him being interested in me. You have to choose your words carefully because in the early stages people are really sensitive to any sort of feedback that implies you're not all that excited about spending time with them. Next time be sure to let her know that you'd really like to spend that time with her vs. she's welcome to tag along. Good luck!
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