CON ARTIST Posted February 6, 2015 Posted February 6, 2015 (edited) So I'll keep it short. Me and this girl met 4 months ago, started dating casually after getting to know each other. She told me all the time how much she liked me and how great I was, and appreciated me not being pushy like her Ex's. Speaking of, all of her exes had cheated on her, so she was very reserved and defensive, which made hitting certain milestones difficult, such as our first kiss, and holding hands. These were a huge deal, more so than they normally are with couples. Everything was going great, we were moving towards an actual, serious, relationship. We were already exclusive, but we were starting to do everything together, and we had visited each others families and all that jazz. Then out of nowhere, just one day, no warning signs, she says she needs to take it back a step. She is afraid and doesn't know what she wants, and there is so much going on her in life, she can't handle the stress of a serious relationship right now (granted, she is going through a lot, her family is very dramatic, and she is very involved with her family. She goes to the same uni as me, and has a 30 hour a week job). She said she really wanted to stay friends at least, and seemed very sincere on that. I didn't want to be just friends, but I just went along with it. I have no idea why she backed out, there could be a million different reasons, but i'll never know until (if) she tells me. So I backed off pursuing her and contacting her for about 2 weeks, and heard nothing from her. She then texts me the other day asking me how I am doing. I reply, short and simply, asking whats up with her. Then nothing, no response from her. Next day comes along, she texts me again, asking what I'm up to. I kinda call her out playfully on not even responding to me after she was the one who initiated, and she said her phone died while she was driving and forgot to text back. She also said "but i'm on my break now though :)". I took that as, okay, she isn't busy and wants to talk. So I ask her how her days going, whats new and all that. Once again, NO response, all day. That was yesterday morning. Nothing from her. It's so frustrating because I really do like her, and I got pretty attached over those 4 months. It's nothing huge, but it is a significant chunk of time. Why is she just texting me then giving me nothing when I respond. I do want to be with her, but I also understand chasing her right now probably won't do that. I also don't want to ignore her if she does text me. What should I do? Should I text her first about something? Wait and see if she ignores me again? Or just cut the ties. I really would rather not just ignore everything from her from now on, because I don't know what exactly is going on, and she means quite a bit to me. Edited February 6, 2015 by CON ARTIST
RuKiddingme Posted February 6, 2015 Posted February 6, 2015 Drop her. She's wasting your time and the old "my phone died forgot" business is a total lie. Been there done that. If someone really likes you, they don't forget to text that's just stupid. 2
Author CON ARTIST Posted February 6, 2015 Author Posted February 6, 2015 I'm really thinking about doing just that. It's so annoying to have that pulled on me. What even does she gain from that if she doesn't respond back?
RuKiddingme Posted February 6, 2015 Posted February 6, 2015 I'm really thinking about doing just that. It's so annoying to have that pulled on me. What even does she gain from that if she doesn't respond back? Who knows? People like that are so flaky they will be doing this to others besides yourself. Find someone who makes time for you. Like Satu said, block and forget.
irresolute Posted February 6, 2015 Posted February 6, 2015 She gets an ego boost from that. And she likes it. She's playing the pulling game: pull, withdraw, pull, withdraw. And she's doing a great job. Unfortunately, she might not like you enough, so if you stop replying she'll probably vanish. She's smart and she's evil
mightycpa Posted February 6, 2015 Posted February 6, 2015 Maybe she was dipping her toes in the water, looking for a little more enthusiasm from you... not that you should be expected to react that way, but if she's mixed up, I could see that. Seems like she's going to cause more heartache for you than pleasure, so maybe kinda busy now would be just the right message to reply with. It is the opposite of needy, and it is just as indefinite in meaning as hers are to you.
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