funlin Posted April 2, 2005 Posted April 2, 2005 Dating for three months to a older German woman and I was so happy with her. Sex was great and I can't even starting to complain about anything. We never discuss about and issue we might have in our mind but it was pretty smooth. She has been in tears many times because I took care of the little things for her and obviously no one care for her in that way. We went on several ski trips together and everything was wonderful. Last week she went to Egypt on holiday and she SMS me everyday. She says she misses me, wants to hug me, and want to kiss me. I was very happy to hear everything from her. When I pick her up from the airport she was still okay. We had sex the same night and in the morning. I had the most perfect day Wednesday then three days later she decided to be friends. She told me she misses the little things I do like email, my voice every now and than, the discussion we have, and all the misunderstanding too. She says she misses the familiarity of a friend but not her partner. But she went on to say I was crying because I hurt you not because I miss you. In three days after sex a woman can change their mind like that? I was so confused and hurt. I didn't sleep at all for the weekend because she meant more to me than myself. I just didn't know how to function. So do you guys think it is over for sure?
vickimonster Posted April 2, 2005 Posted April 2, 2005 I am so sorry to hear about that. Looking back was there any warning that she might not want the relationship?? Maybe she needs so time and some space to relise how good things were. Maybe if you give her some space she will realise it is a mistake.
Author funlin Posted April 2, 2005 Author Posted April 2, 2005 We never talk about anything within our relationship. They are time we had a little discussion and she would say we should just be friends. It was always a little hints here and there. She would also say I am a free man and I can do whatever I want. So I told on the phone that I need her and I want to love her and lets start a real relationship. She can only say I like you a lot and I only can offer you friendship. I can't be begging her anymore. I am so burn out right now it is unreal.
vickimonster Posted April 2, 2005 Posted April 2, 2005 I feel for you, it is so hard. I am afraid it sounds bad, if she would never commit to a real relationship. Maybe you should take some time to look after yourself now. You need to take care of yourself after having been hurt this way. After you have had some space from her you can look at things and decide what to do next. Have you been speaking to her regularly?
Author funlin Posted April 2, 2005 Author Posted April 2, 2005 Well I spoke to her twice this week now I don't speak to her anymore. I wondering why should I hurt myself more to call her? It is not worth it for a woman who don't have as much feelings for me. When she wants me one day she will call I guess.
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