Tuutuu22 Posted February 6, 2015 Posted February 6, 2015 A family friend I grew up with asked me to prom so I asked my boyfriend. He said "How am I supposed to feel seeing another guy hold my girlfriend" I took his feelings into consideration I would feel the same way so I understood and I told my family friend I couldn't go. But is this a double standard. He gets to go to the bahamas for spring break and I can't go to a prom for one night with someone i grew up with as a favor? I just feel this is a bit of a double standars its two situations where we are being forced to test our trust and he can go to the Bahamas even though he knows how nuts I will be going while he is there for 5 nights but I can't go to another high schools prom with a harmless friend I grew up with. Is it a double standard and what should I do?
IfWishesWereHorses Posted February 6, 2015 Posted February 6, 2015 Will you each be going your separate ways off to college? I had a boyfriend and went to another schools prom with a dear family friend. BF knew him and was fine, so no issues there. But, college broke up the relationship as it should have. 30 some odd years later, I'm glad I went as the friend is still a family friend and always will be. I have a feeling you would put your foot down of you didn't have his Bahamas trip looming over your head. Be true to yourself.
dichotomy Posted February 6, 2015 Posted February 6, 2015 (edited) A family friend I grew up with asked me to prom so I asked my boyfriend. He said "How am I supposed to feel seeing another guy hold my girlfriend" I took his feelings into consideration I would feel the same way so I understood and I told my family friend I couldn't go. But is this a double standard. He gets to go to the bahamas for spring break and I can't go to a prom for one night with someone i grew up with as a favor? I just feel this is a bit of a double standars its two situations where we are being forced to test our trust and he can go to the Bahamas even though he knows how nuts I will be going while he is there for 5 nights but I can't go to another high schools prom with a harmless friend I grew up with. Is it a double standard and what should I do? Couple of things - Why does this old friend need to "hold you"? I mean your not going to hold hands, and maybe if there a slow dances you could avoid those and stick to the fast ones. Has you BF met your old friend? If your old friend is a cool guy and understands why your BF might be worried, they could grab lunch - have a man to man talk kind of thing. Lastly - are you sure your male friend is harmless? Plenty of guys have secrete crushes on their long time female friends and would step it up given the chance. Many times the girl is shocked they think of them "in that way". Guys understand this. Why did he ask you to prom? Edited February 6, 2015 by dichotomy
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