Jonnywalton Posted February 5, 2015 Posted February 5, 2015 I found this board because I got hit hard by a breakup after a three date thing with a girl. I suppose I was just trying to understand my reaction because it totally shocked me. I suppose the scary truth is that some women are so amazing they just get to you and you cant help projecting forward what life would be like having them around. So really your sad about losing something that never actually happened. (apart from in your own head). Note to self: Avoid amazing women at all costs going forward. It will end with typing on a message board when you could be out having fun!
d0nnivain Posted February 5, 2015 Posted February 5, 2015 Don't avoid amazing women. Stop projecting. At the 3 date mark, all you need to worry about its a 4th date, not forever. 3
KBarletta Posted February 5, 2015 Posted February 5, 2015 Note to self: Avoid amazing women at all costs going forward. It will end with typing on a message board when you could be out having fun! Truly "amazing" women are not going to send you to a message board. They're going to be the ones who last. So, instead of avoiding certain women, you probably just need to re-define what you mean by "amazing." 1
devilish innocent Posted February 5, 2015 Posted February 5, 2015 I once spent a week crying over somebody I'd only been out with twice. Oddly enough, I hadn't even been sure if I wanted to continue seeing him. A couple of years later, I got to go on a third date with him and discovered there were no feelings on my part. I think this can happen when you've been single without other serious prospects for a while. When somebody finally comes along who seemed like they could be the right fit, even for a brief period of time, you overestimate how great they were. You worry that nobody else will come along who'll compare. The truth is they couldn't have been that great if they didn't want to continue things. There will be better prospects in the future. You just need to remember that and focus on moving forward.
todreaminblue Posted February 5, 2015 Posted February 5, 2015 things happen for a reason...and a truly amazing woman who is suited to you so much better than a woman ever could be, might be around the corner for you...the woman which makes all your losses seem like wins......good luck...deb
Author Jonnywalton Posted February 6, 2015 Author Posted February 6, 2015 thanks for all the comments. I think sometimes you meet people you like and once in a while there is someone you think could be really special. There is an extra buzz about it I suppose. Its about 10 days of NC now and the first seven I thought of nothing else but her. Now there are gaps, signs of the old me coming back!
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